Is it normal no marriage

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I've been with my partner 5yrs and hes still legally married to his ex. She with someone else too but when i asked him to get a divorce because we now have two kids and one on the way. He quickly said why im not getting married to u and that really hurt but i made it look like i didnt care. And at the same time made me think he doesnt love me and hes just use to being with me.what should i do?

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Based on 32 votes (5 yes)
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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    Sorry to say, but you sound like the "Backup plan" - you know, the person you end up with because you cant be with the one you want / haven't found the one you want.

    What you should do is, of course, entirely up to you. So long as you accept that your partner will probably leave you as soon as he finds someone he feels is better, if the rest of the relationship is good, stay. Alternately, kick his ass to the kerb and go find someone who wants to be with you as "option A".

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    If you want merrij you must tell him truths otherwise he will keep doing bad things to you like this forever.

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  • finn
    7 years ago

    Why are you having children with a married man? I mean didn't you get a clue after year one? Or after the first child? You sound severely delusional.

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    • Galilea0918
      7 years ago

      The only reason he got married was to help her get papers to be legally. But after some time he left her and was seperated for two years and hes the kind of guy that don't talk to strangers we met cuz i was the one that started talking to him

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      • finn
        7 years ago

        That sounds worse. He's coming off as such a shady character. After discovering some of these facts, common sense should have told you to run the other way not waste time, money and reproductive years.

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  • bigfatdick2
    7 years ago

    His ex might have put him off marriage for life...do not condemn him just because he reclined to answer your "marriage proposal", after all a ring does not close the hole!

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  • Fatty_McJiggles
    7 years ago

    Any man with common sense should be analyzing very carefully whether he wants to get married or not. Large percentages of men who believed in the whole "dream" of a stable marriage, stable kids, stable household, stable life, etc...are paying dearly for making the mistake of rushing into marriage.

    Years ago marriage made more sense for men, they got up went to work, came home to a clean house, with a home cooked meal waiting for them. This whole arrangement has changed and the man isn't coming home to this anymore. That was the only reason men needed marriage anyway. If they aren't getting that there isn't any point in getting married.

    You've given him kids according to your story. That's the only point for the modern man to be bothered with marriage now.

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    • Galilea0918
      7 years ago

      I do cook for him and i also work i get out of work at 5:30 he get out at 6 in those 30 min i shower the kids clean the house and try to have food ready

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    • Tempest-au
      7 years ago

      As a man who has had 3 failed marriages, I approve of this message.

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    Wow, l feel bad for you

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