Is it normal never feeling into, having a relationship?

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Like the title says, I never feel like building up a relationship or actually I don't want to spend to much time on a girl. Deep inside I would like to have a girlfriend.
But like always when the moment comes, I am rejecting the girls i used to like..

I am wondering if this is a trust issue (Because I might be hurt in the past) or just a confidence issue?

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  • MisterPanic
    12 years ago

    I recognise this. I do want a girlfriend but when I date a girl or like someone it just never works out, mostly because of me. I decided to just live with it, I'm just 18 and enjoying being single.

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  • Corleone
    12 years ago

    I don't think it's an issue with either of those things. You don't have to rush in a relationship with someone because you can. If you don't like spending time with those women, you can reject them.

    You know what wouldn't be normal? Dating someone even though you don't like hanging out with her.

    You're normal, don't fret about it.

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  • Justaskingadvice
    12 years ago

    lol, I am definetely not asexual, because I am attracted to girls my friend haha.

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  • Justaskingadvice
    12 years ago

    Thank you for your comment, I appreciate. :)
    I think this is because I want to concentrate a 100 % on my school, but I think this is just a excuse for myself, I dunno. Maybe it is a lack of maturity/trust or I maybe have too high expectations like you said. Do you got some advice or something?

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    • tbiM20
      12 years ago

      I have plenty of friends who focused on their school instead of relationships. Guess what - half are married to people they met *after* graduating. So don't sweat it :-) you have plenty of time after school. Heck, maybe you'll find a nice study-buddy. Just use your time for what's important - school - bc you only have now to get it right, & your whole life to date. Plus, focusing on school gives you the opportunity to figure yourself out.

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    Any combination of things. Dunno how old you are, but girls you liked in the past may not be the same type you actually care for now.

    OR you need to get to know them better & learn the difference between attraction & love/like/the ooey-gooey feeling that a relationship is built on.

    OR you've placed such high expectations on having a relationship you're afraid to get into one (i.e. the confidence thing.)

    OR lack of trust, commitment, maturity, readiness, finding the right person, stability...

    If you're not ready, don't push some wild expectations on yourself!

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  • I-R-Bored
    12 years ago

    It's normal, ever heard of being asexual?

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