Is it normal my son came out to me, feeling disapointed?

It sounds like you were questioning his sexuality. What you wrote comes across as you implying he might not really be gay.
That's probably why he was upset.

Work on the grammar.

Don't accept it

Go ahead & smack him until he turns straight

You did nothing wrong. You were very nice and accepting. I would just wait it out and see what happens.

"I said, let's wait for a while and if you think that you are still having homosexual feelings towards your own sex, than again it is completely normal because human sexuality has many faces" Yeah like everyone else is saying, it sounds like you're questioning him. He wouldn't have told you unless he was really really sure. You said he was "stating he was gay", not questioning that he might be gay.

It takes alot of courage and to be honest you should have been more open instead of immediately saying things like "let's see where this goes...". He's your son just love him.

You seem to have questioned it, and said that you think he is being rash or something. Yes, feelings and urges can evolve, but you pretty much shot down what he said from the get-go, so to speak. I can see why he is angry or disappointed in you.

Sounds like he's going to be a feminine homosexual. Be prepared for more over reacting.

We're only getting one side of the story here, we're only getting your truth. However, on the flip side of the coin, there's no reason to believe you are misrepresenting what happened just because we're only hearing your side.

From what you've said, your reaction seems to be supportive. It does sound like you think it's a phase, though. And that's completely understandable. Historically, it appears that people have gone through a "phase" and then eventually accepted heterosexuality. Personally, I don't buy it. I think they've just chosen the path of least resistance. There are so many anti-gay idiots in the world who want us to conform to their worldview that it's sometimes easier to conform than to be who we are. Those idiots are not just 13 year old boys. They are politicians and religious leaders.

You and your wife, however, don't fall into this idiot category. I think what you said to your son was in good faith. I think you tried to open his eyes to the fact that this may be a transitional foray. However, he may very much feel that it's not. And he may feel entirely insulted that you refuse to accept his word.

Sometimes we have to think things rather than say them, and it's a really delicate balancing act to decide what should be said and what shouldn't. But given that your son's coming out was no doubt more of a surprise to you than it was to him, I really can't criticise you. You sound like the kind of people who care. Maybe it's just going to take time for the dust to settle.

I hope it resolves itself. For all your sakes.

I agree with the above poster. It sounds condescending. Even if it weren't a gay issue, telling what is likely a teenager(correct me if I'm wrong)that they don't understand something will trigger an upset.

I think you are coming from a loving place, which is good. This is just as much as a lesson for you as it is for him. Just accept him, quirks and all, don't doubt him, second guess him, or try to provide advice on sexuality.

Apologize for coming across as insensitive. Admit that you don't know what you are doing and ask him for help to figure out what he needs from you.