Is it normal my sister wants to stay with me?

When she found out I'm going to move out, she kind of panicked. She asked me not to go and when I told her this was the next step in my life, she asked me to take her. I figured she would get over it in a few days but she just got more desperate in trying to convince me to not leave her behind. I tried telling her that it wouldn't be easy and I wouldn't have much money to spend and we'd have to share a bedroom and so on, but she just agreed to everything and said she'd get a job to help and would do whatever else it takes to convince me to let her come along. I finally realized there was nothing I could do to change her mind. I asked my mom and she supports whatever makes us happy. Although I'm guessing her actual reason is more two birds with one stone, no more pesky children! But anyway I'm at an impasse. I love my sister and don't want to break her heart like that and besides I won't be lonely if she comes and she can help with chores. But I hope she can live on her own eventually because don't think I want to spend the rest of my life with her and it could be awkward having two people in a fairly small space. For instance if I'm going to come home with a partner she needs to disappear until I call her to come back but I think I can avoid that. So I'm not sure what I should do, I want to take her but there could be problems. And I swear it really seems like the price of bunk beds has gone up.

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  • bryson_willis

    I usually find the art of telling someone NO is not giving them any explanation, or opportunity to negotiate... but when you love someone this is damn near impossible.

    I honestly don't think it will be as bad as you imagine... for the first year.

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  • iggyj

    What's wrong at home that your sister is so desperate to get out? Something is going on. How old is she?

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    That sounds normal to me. My family was falling apart when I turned 18 and I took my brother with me when I moved out. He was 16 at the time and he was so happy that I allowed him to come with me that he was extremely helpful. Worked a full time job despite being in school and honestly became invaluable to me being able to stay in college and pay for my apartment. He lived with me for two years, and when he graduated high school, he got student loans and his own dorm room, while maintaining his job. We live separately now, both with our significant others, but to this day my brother is my best friend. Even though it did cause some hardship and awkwardness at first, i'm very glad I made that decision.

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  • 77_88

    I think it is completely normal. Just make sure that this doesn't become a sexual relationship later on...

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