Is it normal my sexual life ?

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Is it normal, this kind of sexual life ? please read my story.

Last time i had sex or been in a relationship was like three years ago since my first relationship with a my x-girlfriend!
We had a nice summer relationship, because that much we where together but i decided to put an end to the game because i didn't love her any more and i didn't want to fool arround with her also i didn't like her character as a person.
After that i had some short form of relationship that nothing holded or had sexual actions.
Next year i fell in love with a girl, that was a childhood friend, i said to her how i feel she said no i will leave the city for 5 years for studies!
After all this i never did or tried to do something with a girl.
At some point i caught myself no longer willing to try talk to a girl nore a girl came to me so i could have a chance to speak with them. My friends always tell me ,when we are at bars, go speak to that girl and i say to them no or i try to avoid it. I know wait for the one is something stupid since i have to go "hunting" as long as i am young so i will have more expirience.
The trouth is that i don't feel comfortable with my self and i am afraid of what the girl will tell to me, my friend tell me that i am not so bad as i imagine.
I know that i sound like a faggot but this is serious because i am afraid that if i continue i will end up being a nerd playing video games at my free time after work and before i go out with my friends.
I am attracted by girls, i am not homo or bi and i watch straight porno only.I am 1,85 meters at height and i weight 95 kilos i know i am weighting more than i should because i got 10-15 more kilos the last months(i remind you that my problem is over 3 years old), but i am not in a tragic state, i know i am not but i feel ugly and i think this is what keeping me from going to speak with girls.
So, big story and maybe you are confused so i will ask now if it is normal to start being Sexualy active and then stop and not need or care about it anymore ? What should i do? Just hit the gym to reshape and have more self esteem or is it a psycological problem?

I will appreciate serious replys , thank you in advance!

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  • Sotchi
    13 years ago

    I think the insecurity you mentioned is prob a bigger factor in this than you think. Def go to the gym/do things that make you feel better about you. You'll feel ready to talk to girls again. Be patient and don't stress on it.

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  • lovebuzz1025
    13 years ago

    Sounds like you lack motivation.

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  • Rexvolt
    13 years ago

    The word use of faggot is offensive.
    Sounds to me like you are ugly and insecure.

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  • glomper
    13 years ago

    I know how you feel I went through the same thing as you. All you have to do is start talking to girls. As friends and it will feel more comfortable with time. I know it can be be scary now but it will feel normal with time. you just need to relax you will find some one that is right for you.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    You are not a faggot for feeling this way. You just need more confidence. I promise you, one day you will find somebody who will appreciate you for who you are. But sometimes, you just gotta get out there, and make it happen. You can't always just sit back, and wait for them to come to you. Sometimes you have to make the first move and go to them. You can do it. Just believe in yourself. And you already know what you should do... next time you're sitting at the bar, and the pretty girl is right in front of you, thats the perfect opportunity. Talk to her.

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  • Flasher
    13 years ago

    Something is missing. There is more to this tale.

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    • sabaktes
      13 years ago

      i don't think i miss saying something since my last love point of the story :S

      this is the last time i just tried to do something after it i want to do something with a girl i just don't do anything nor i am willing to go to talk to girls and try do somehting with them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    that is like the same thing with me but i am a grl

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  • ytak
    12 years ago

    Do some GLT (gym, tanning, laundry) at least twice a week for three months and get your life back on track, stop acting like a nerd and weigh yourself is kilometers, who does that???

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  • 343Boy
    12 years ago

    Why did you feel the need to tell us you weren't gay?

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  • 1942
    12 years ago

    HIT THE GYM?! FUCK NO!

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  • MrsBailey9
    12 years ago

    I don't think there is anything wrong with you because you aren't interested in sex right now. It sounds like you are insecure about yourself. If you aren't happy with yourself, you can't be happy with another person. Whatever you want to do to improve yourself is up to you. You have to like yourself and live yourself, and then you will be able to do to the same with girls. Until then don't worry about it. Sex is a special thing between two people who love each other. Or at least that is the way it is supposed to be. It's your life, you have control of it. Hit the gym if you want to!

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  • graydarkness
    12 years ago

    Um, you are a faggot when you use that word. Seriously, dude? Just because you're not currently with a girl doesn't make you gay. Not by a long shot, buddy.

    If you're feeling uncomfortable with your body then hit the gym. It seems like you need a bit of kick in the pants. If you want a girl you need to get out there and do stuff! Put yourself out there! Because if you really want it it'll happen.

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  • unsure106
    13 years ago

    It sounds like with your previous relationships that these were with women that you were friends with first, and then cared about before becoming sexual. Maybe you just haven't found anyone that you care enough about to become physical.

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  • hokisgurl
    13 years ago

    Maybe u should go see this girl again make the trip to see her or start having one night stands I wouldn't recommend but it's an option. And other tales.

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    • sabaktes
      13 years ago

      i have already dune this but i regret it i don't want to do this again, i don't like her any more ...

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  • emilydoll
    13 years ago

    Go see a counselor.

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  • cal1swwag
    13 years ago

    Hit the gym!! I'm 25 from San Diego living in Memphis. In Highschool Had 1 gf. She Dumped me cuz her friends made fun of her. This hurt me a lot because she said she loved me and she was my first love. I moved from san Diego 3 yrs ago to Memphis went to school turned 230lbs of crap into 202 lbs of muscle. I know live in sd and l can't keep the girls off of me

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Yeah. Like I haven't had a gf in a while and I'm starting to get the gay rep. Sucks.

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    • sabaktes
      13 years ago

      hahaha not at all mate, not at all !

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