Is it normal my partner being such an unbelievable pain in the ass

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My family as much as I love them can be a little bit prejudice. I dont have good relationship with my Mother or father. My extended family loves me very much but they are a bit prejudice towards certain kind of people. My partner is on the list of people I cant associate with.

I told them we cant tell them but I will tell anyone else. They seem to be projecting THEIR OWN perfect vision of a family on my family(Which they never met) and I cant break them from this delusional image. They are being unreasonable and if I tell my family I will have to break up with my partner and they dont understand that.

They are making me choose and I would rather not lose the rest of my family because they are fucking selfish and delusional. How do I handle this? My dad hates me because during his mental break down I did not help him commit suicide. My mother hates me since her half of the family adores me. If I get rid of my extended family I dont really have much left.

I know its wrong to be good to my moms side of the family since that makes her look bad when she wants to talk crap about me. I know I should have just stabbed my dad when I got the chance. I know its hurting my partner that I dont want to create more drama but I dont know how to handle all this and make everyone happy. What should I do?

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    It's not your job to make them happy. It sounds like there's an enormous amount of pressure on you.

    Are you dependent on your family?

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    Keep a good distance from your family. Delusions don't end well. Short visits are probably the best.

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  • Spider-Man
    8 years ago

    its never too late to fix things if you really try

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  • Shoefish
    8 years ago

    I'm guessing you're not planning on being with your partner for very long. It's very unrealistic to think you can keep your relationship from your family forever. I don't see how your partner is being a pain in the arse when you aren't showing them any respect.

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  • NarutoUzumaki
    8 years ago

    If a mom is talking shit about her own son, it doesnt look bad because your extended family loves you, it looks bad because it is batshit insane.
    Also try to reason with your extended family about your partner, ask them about why they don't like her or tell them about why you like her.

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