Is it normal my parents..

You're 20 so.... I would suggest getting a job and moving into your own apartment so they can't tell you what to do

I honestly think the only way you're going to escape this is moving out

So move out. You're working so you should be able to afford rent on a small flat.

This the fault of your parents not properly parenting you in my view.
Parents who are overly protective or place unreasonable conditions on their children in their home are not helping a child to grow up. in absolute contrast, as this 20yo shows, the young adult will remain dependent on the parents really forever.

The ONLY way for you to become an adult is to act like an adult.
YOU decide what you are doing and where you are going or who you are seeing. As long as this doesn't create any NORMAL issues on your family and in your home, then as an adult you make up your own mind and do what you like.

If you need or want your parents advice that's all good and happy. But otherwise they have ZERO say in restricting you from doing anything normally.

Note, I say 'normally' in the sense that you are not immaturely causing havoc to any others. You all must live in the house together respecting each other. Its not one way only.

If your parents cannot see this, then I suspect that you have much to learn yourself. Start by moving out.

WHAT THE HELL?! Your 20. I think your old enough to make your own decisions. Go out woth your friends. What? Are they gonna hit a 20 year old for not listening to them.

lulz because you seem friendly I want to tell you a true story.

When I was 18 I had a BEST friend who had a curfew at 18 as well (note I don't actually know your age but I'll continue) He HAD to be home by 12midnight on those weekend nights.

Anyway, after going to cinemas (or anywhere) with our girlfriends, there he went straight home (on his motor bike) as ordered by his tough Dad. I always thought it was sad for him, because we would stay out much longer still having fun.

Well, one day he went out, and at approx 12 thought (I suspect) "Shit, better get home"
As usual he sped home on his motorbike and was killed instantly when a car backed out of their driveway!

Seriously this is beyond sad, I'm even tearing up now, some 20 years later.
lulz, forget the curfew ITS NOT WORTH IT, if you're above 18.

Not really! maybe you need to sit them down and say how you feel, tell them you feel cutt-off from everything and that if they dont let you live your life then you're going to resent them when you can. I know it sounds harsh but i know a girl exactly the same and she had to get her friends mum to sit down and tell him it straight.
If a girl likes you and you like her back then why let your parents stop you, she may not be your mrs Right but she might make you happy for a few years, everyone deserves to be loved! Live your life the want you want it not by someone else. xx

Dude seriously you are lane as he'll if you are almost 20 an parents are ver protective of you. Here is the problem: you live with your parents!!!! Move out mooch

Exact same situation I had with my dad, I'm away at college now(after two years commuting) and I still don't have any friends, can't tell when girls are interested in me(seriously blew one opportunity already) and spend a lot of my time alone trying not to be bitter/awkward.

But at least I don't have anyone telling what to and that is a great feeling. I didn't even go home( I live 80 minutes away) for thanksgiving break.

Trying to change you parents' mind on this is futile because fact is you probably want to some things while you're out that they don't think you should do and that's that.

You just have to get out, if you're a sophomore, get really good grades this year and transfer to another school/move on campus next year. No excuses, the best part about living with my dad was that I always had an excuse for why life sucked so much, I don't anymore.

EDIT: From reading the other comments..you really could just try not listening up until they threaten to kick you out or compromise with you. The only potential problem with this is that if you actually do move out, they might not want to support you which would really suck while you're in school.

Sounds like my mom. I turn twenty in May and up til a little over a month ago still had to literally beg my mom to let me out of the house on good behavior. I'm an only child so she's really over protective and I never went out in high school and I still don't in college (although I think it's more of my choice now).

I don't know what to tell you honestly. People say move out, but it wasn't that easy for me (I don't have a job).

I had keys and just got my license so I just started leaving the house when my mom wasn't home. She couldn't do much once I was out the house.

I'd say sit them down and have a talk with them letting them know you're an adult now, but I'm not, cause that shit didn't work with my mom and I'm guessing if you're posting on here it didn't work for yours either.

How did I get my mom to see eye to eye with me?
Something drastic had to happen before she came to her senses . . . for her that meant I actually stood my ground after she said no . . . an well let's just say things got physical and a shit load of unnecessary stuff happen.

I'm not saying this is the way to do it, but if you can't go out already, what's the worst that can really happen? Some times it takes unnecessary shit to happen to bring people to their senses.

I think it's just natural to worry that your kids are safe but as long as you respect them and text to say where you are and what time to expect you home, then they shouldn't worry.

I must say, there are the most awful horror stories out there but I think safety is their #1 priority for you. I also suspect they are either older than 40 yo and / or have live either an isolated / religious life.

Don't be too hard on them. Just explain that you understand their concern but you are going to the cinema with friends and will be back around midnight. Try to stick to the time you've told them each time so that they learn to trust you.

Stop being a fucking pussy and take control of your life. That or STFU, stop complaining, and quietly accept the fact that you are a little bitch.

what are your parents going to do if you go out? you are 20 fucking years old, you're old enough to smoke, drink (if you are in the great white north), have sex, drive a car. you can do anything so whats holding you back? is your mom going to give you a "time out"? honestly, how can you punish a 20 yr old man, just say fuck you guys im going to do what i want, i am an adult and can make my own decisions so fuck you for stealing my childhood.

That's fucking weird.

I feel so fucking bad for you.

umm your an adult... i think you know its not normal and theres no reason to say with them if ur not happy

I would say that you should move out and live on your own so that you don't have to abide by their rules so strictly, you are certainly old enough, but that would be hypocritical of me since I currently do not live on my own either. No, it is not normal for them to be THAT overprotective of you.

You are an adult. If you don't like your parents rules or how they treat you put on your big boy pants and get your own place. As long as they are footing the bill you will have to abide by their rules.

Totally agree with Amy :)
My uncle is the same with my cousin, just recently she has been coming out of her shell a little bit more and her dad was given the choice by her either let her grow up or lose her :/ it sucks but, sometimes the truth hurts but, you have the right to be happy and live your life the way YOU want to!! Youu just gotta man up and tell them str8 remind them that you're 20 and you're a man :D xx