Is it normal my mom cant forgive me for this? what do i do to fix it?

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My dad kicked me out and after said he wanted me back. I went to live with my mother. However I was kind of conflicted because I did not want to bug my mom since I was suppose to be with my dad. Now every time I do something for my dad which I am obligated to do often she gets upset. I do not want to be a jerk to my dad to impress my mom. Granted I do not feel close to him since the incident. However my mom will not let me hear the end of it. How do I make my mother not upset anymore. She assumes I hate her now no matter what I do. I never said I do but I can not make her realize I do not. I am starting to because of how she acts. I just know she is always going to think the worst of me. What should I do? She never listens to me about anything. She does not understand this either. She also is very panicky and I have a slightly calmer demeanor. How do I fix this?

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    If you can't talk then write. You may see it as old-fashion but I'm sure that you 'll be able to tell her all you have on your heart with the right words.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      I actually agree with this. I had a big fight with my brother some nasty things were said. I wrote him a letter of apology and he later that day apologised to me aswell then we hugged it out.

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  • ILoveJoshHutcherson
    11 years ago

    Take her out to tea and tell her you love her

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  • seekingcleanfriendship
    11 years ago

    Ok she hates your dad most likely has good reason to.She would be upset at anyone who did anything for your father.
    You have to see this from her point of view. First you left her to live with him . That hurt her. Then you came back , why? Because he kicked you out. You didnt even choose her then. And she took you back because you are her child abd she loves you, but it is painful to her.
    Then even after all that she is caring for you watching you do things for him?
    Please consider what she has gone through and is goibg through.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I did not leave anyone. She is the one who left. I choice to stay with my father. Also your advice is not fixing the issue. I also already got that thanks. We all lived with my father and she decided to leave and take my brother.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Tell her directly to stop putting you in the middle and acting like a wailing Cassandra. He's still your father and she should know and behave better about that. Fix it by expecting more from her. If she is incapable, then step back because there is nothing further to do other than to not take responsibility for your Mom's troubles.

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