Is it normal my lesbian friend changes around her girlfriend?

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My best friend is a lesbian, certainly not that I mind at all, she is a really wonderful person who I love talking to and hanging out with for hours on end just having a great time.

Lately however, her girlfriend started disliking me no matter how far I go out of my way to be nice to her. It started when she found out we smoke cigarettes together, and even though she has been smoking for years I am the one person who is to be blamed for it.

Whenever her girlfriend is around my friend has a complete personality change. Her girlfriend is the same way, her friends say she becomes very mean and hissy the second she is with my friend, and is happy and full of laughter otherwise. If I tell a joke that would in any other circumstance have her die laughing, the same joke makes me into an annoying jerk who isn't funny at all. We were laughing and having fun all night until her girlfriend showed up.

It's gotten to the point where I no longer want to be around my friend anymore as her girlfriend puts an enormous strain on our friendship. The other night she even purposely went out of her way to catch a ride home with someone who lives a lot further away from her than I do, and I ALWAYS drive them where they need to be.

I understand that people act somewhat different around their girlfriend, as a guy I do it myself, but I don't treat my friends like crap when she is around. I really love her as a friend and I want her to be happy, but honestly I can't stand them together even to the point of hoping they break up.

Is it just me or is this normal behavior to completely change for the worse around a significant other?

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  • lovingson
    7 years ago

    It might sound silly but when you are alone with her make and advance towards her see her reaction

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  • want2camp
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal, and I've experienced it. Albeit, my friend was not a lesbian (not that it matters). I couldn't stand it, and often I'd just try and hang out with her alone. It got to the point that other people would notice her behavior towards me, but when we weren't in a group, we were tight! However, she and I are not best friends anymore, and honestly I miss her.

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  • iilittleoneii
    12 years ago

    Trust me. It's totally normal!

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  • jenjen06
    12 years ago

    It's normal :/ happens a lot, isn't fair and is frustrating but it's normal

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