Is it normal my husband will not stop flirting at work?

I had the funniest image of a person stuffing food in their mouth and bolting to a couch like a bat out of hell.

He sounds like an arsehole.

You deserve better that this. Give him an ultimatum. If you have already done so (which sounds possible) it might be time to consider splitting with him and finding someone who actually respects and deserves you.

I noticed you mentioned nothing of your relationship with him. Do you even have one? Are you this insecure because you two no longer have a good relationship?
Boys will be boys. I am a terrible flirt. I just love women. I love being around them. I love making them feel good (which a little flirting can do) and I love being noticed by them. I've run boats with women crew members, shared living spaces with them and even hotel rooms with them, when traveling to or from a vessel, but in 24 years of marriage and the many other years of relationships without marriage, I've NEVER so much as kissed another woman on the lips, let alone cheated.
You may be making a mountain out of a mole hill, or perhaps you are looking for an excuse to get out of your marriage.
And perhaps the other reason for his flirting is that he isn't getting the attention he needs at home.

The most interesting thing you've said here is "Should I leave him and find someone more stable."

Seriously? How about if you leave him you be alone for a little while? Its interesting that the first thought before leaving a marriage is....I need to find someone else.

If this is 100% accurate....as there are always three sides to every story (his(her) side/her(his) side and the truth). How would you know he has intent to mess with someone else? how do you know he's doing this stuff? Are you just guessing? I feel like you may be really really insecure.

if you've gone over it and he hasn't and apparently won't change, it's up to you to decide whether you can take it or not. i agree that it's disrespectful but there's no need for you to feel humiliated, it is what it is and he's the one who should be ashamed of himself

How do you that they aren't doing anything? That his blatant advances haven't come to fruition? If you know about it, he's doing a pretty shitty job at keeping it a secret. You'd be better off leaving him.

You sounds like a selfish dick. Tell him if he wants this other woman he can have her but he cant have it both ways. He obviously does not love enough to remain faithful.

I think that your husband is disloyal. I'm not recommending divorce, it's not meant to be part of the marriage arrangement, but you need to win him over again. Do things you like to do with him. Help him to love you again, and after you've been through this, express your feelings to each other. Explain that as his marriage mate, you will always be loyal to him, and ask him if he can give you that loyalty. If he retaliates, gently explain how you feel about him flirting and ask him to stop. If a fight occurs, stay calm and mild and genuinely say sorry to him, even if you've done nothing wrong. Be a respectful wife, and your actions will win him over far more than your words.

You are overreacting. He is a grown ass man, stop interfering with his actions. You are way too needy.

His behavior is not acceptable, certainly, but it's comparatively normal for a culture that celebrates as strongly as ours does all the young, flirting, romancing trappings of bachelor sexuality.

To be completely realistic, he might not be flirting with women for the sake of the women; he might be flirting with women for the sake of other men (or even just for the sake of some emotional need within himself not related to anyone else). Flirting can often take on a weird sort of role as a status symbol, a kind of social accomplishment. How many times in TVs, movies, and advertisements have you seen the portrayal of the young, laughing, drinking, flirting romantic hero, the "social alpha-male?" Your husband probably wouldn't be explicit about it, most of all 'cause he might not even understand the motivation himself; but chances are good that he's just trying to feel like "that guy." It's peer pressure for the non-preteen world.

Be firm with him. You can even show him this theory of mine if you think it'd help. Make a reasonable, lengthy argument with him about why it makes you uncomfortable, and why you want him to stop. Be unusually insistent, explicit, and clear with him to show him that you are serious. And definitely be kind too. (Trust me, most of us men are socially handicapped to one degree or another; especially the laughy, flirty ones.)

If he still doesn't stop after you do something unusual, then there may be a deeper problem, one that a random online community probably has no idea how to help. Or there might not. I kind of have no idea; but hope this helps anyway!

@thegypsysailor

Why do you have the need to flirt with other women all of the time? You can still appreciate their beauty from a far without trying to get to know them. You say you never so much as kissed another woman in all of theyears of your flirtations. Were the woman available to you attractive? Or were they woman you would not want to have sex with.

Your behavior is clearly bigamist. You cannot be happy with one woman, so you are always looking for an ego boost elsewhere. And if you had the chance, and the woman was beautiful, I bet you would kiss the passing woman who you flirt with and more. I feel very sorry for your wife/girlfriend. She is perhaps clueless, fearful, a green card woman, and/or deperate, to hang on to a man who constantly looks for affection from other women.

If he's just flirting with her, leave him be and don't feel bad about it. Some of us just love to flirt and mean nothing by it :)