Is it normal my husband takes me for granted?

You Do too much for him. If he loved you he would show it to you. Stop pampering him. Your worth more than that. Like you said you put in 14 hour days where is your back rub? Your man has it made!

It's a slippery slope between being a caring spouse and being a doormat. Right now, you are teaching him to treat you like a doormat because you literally do everything for him.

Talk to him. Tell him you are completely serious about cutting back on the amount of "favors" you do him. Stop massaging him, making him coffees, preparing him food, doing his laundry, etc. Just because you are the one who is staying home to take care of the children doesn't mean you have to also become his personal butler. He might not do more to help you, but at least you won't be treated like a servant in your own home.

He sounds like a teenager. Working out (ye all round important) but playing games? (Not one to judge. Some games are awesome). This husband of yours sounds like me currently, a teenager working with a part-time job yet playing games and working out.

Wow you seem like a very understanding and wonderful person but try not to listen to what every one has to say, because frankly some of it's a bit out of proportion

This is typical behaviour when a woman becomes a doormat!! But dead easy to sort out...

Take to your bed sick!!
If you don't have a man-flu then say you've hurt your back and can't lift the babies, see to the house or to him!

I'd say there's no talking to him so you need to force him to see how much you do. He may have to use his holidays to come out of work to care for the kids but so what! Once you break the pattern that has existed you can then implement a few small changes eg. if you make dinner, he cleans up or vice versa. OR you will iron the children's clothes but he can do the adults... whatever you need help with.

Let him be the slave for a week or two and that should make him appreciate you!

I feel the same sometimes. I work my ass off and so does he, but when he gets home, its his time he doesn't disrespect me or anything, but maybe do the fuckin dishes once in a while when you know how bad my hands hurt in the winter! My fingers split open and it hurts like hell. But don't you worry babe, I'll make your dinner then clean up the mess and do the dishes with bloody fingers. No problem. And when you run out of iced tea or pepsi or cigarettes, I'll just run on down to the store for ya. Oh, you want pizza? Sure I'll call that up for you. What? These nothing for breakfast? Let me get that for ya. Shall I wipe your ass now!!! Ugh. Sorry. I needed to vent :) I do love my husband very much but he pisses me off somethin feirce sometimes

yuu seem very patient i wouldve already yelled at my bf , maybe marriage consouling before yuu get tired of it and decide to leave him.

You are the one not feeling right...you are the one at this moment with a problem...so the real question is how can you be happy? You set your own boundaries as to what you will accept in a relationship...figure out what you need and how you would like this relationship to look and feel like..then communicate what you need and decide what you will do if you don't get your needs met....stop focusing on what he is doing but what you will be doing if you don't get your meeds met

Wow, get over yourself a divorce isn't that bad, my parents divorced when i was five, and had plenty of arguments it's not that big of a deal, and if you say it's a last resort why present it like the first? and just because you had a bad experience with bad parenting doesnt mean she will inflict that same affect on her chilldren.

I agree with the other people on here, deprive him and see what happens. You obviously don't want him looking at porn, what woman does? So you play nasty to. He says, have sex with me or i'll turn to porn, you say "I'm not in the mood, you turn to porn, I divorce your ass."

Stop doing the little things for him and he will notice.

He doesn't appreciate you? EVER? That's bloody awful - you need to let him know that is NOT okay anymore. You're not his personal man-servant. You're his WIFE.

Sorry hun, but it doesn't sound like you're in a marriage. You're in a contract of servitude.

Exactly. Dozis is on crack I think.

I think you simply grown bored of couple life. It happens to us all sooner or later. Staying together becomes mode like a necessity or a habit than something you want to do.
So it starts feeling less satisfing. Some people take longer other, for other ones it happens right after the first awkward or great honeymoon sex. The novelty just wears off easily. Even if you dump him and find someone else, it will just happen all over again. Of coirse he fets defensive when you confront him about it, it is not like he ignores you om purpose, it is just that men think they have to courtship a woman before getting laid or marring not afterwards. That's why marriage was invented in the first place. So men wouldn't have to repeat the whole courtship thing to have sex again. if it is that bad, and you really need somebody to reward you with compliments and maybe a little extra something, you should probably get yourself a lover. You can't exactly go to a lawyer and ask him to send him divorce papers because he does not tell you how beautiful you are. You'd just get laughed out of the office. You should have been predicting all this. Truth is you both grew bored of each other and you need to "revive" the fire of the lost past. You need to go out more often, try pretending you know each other and meeting all over again, that way you will remember what brought you together in the first place, and who knows, maybe you will even remember what is so valuable about being with each other, and start appreciating your family and each other eh?
How about that? How does that sound?
I personally believe it is bullshit but it worked for some.
Good luck!