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Sometimes I think I'm a sociopath. Everyone cried at my grandfather's funeral but me and when he was dying I carried on as usual. And after his death, there still were no tears. We were very close and he helped my mother raise me since I have no father. I actually loved being around him and thought him a good man. Am I heartless?
First, I am very sorry for your loss, especially the loss of someone so close.
I would say it's normal. I, unfortunately, went through the same process at a difficult time in my life. I wasn't as emotional as I expected when it happened, but it hit me later when I went about my normal activities and he wasn't there. That stung more than those formal ceremonies, services, funerals etc.
People cope with loss in different ways, so I wouldn't worry too much about not crying or getting emotional, especially in front of others.
Was your grandfather dealing with physical and/or mental health concerns prior to his passing? Most of my elders who have passed were dealing with various problems from cancer to Alzheimer's. You love them, but you know that they are suffering and not really living anymore, so when they do pass on, it's a sense of relief, knowing that they are no longer in pain. Losing my father was more difficult to cope with because he took his own life, which was completely unexpected.
You're not heartless at all. People cope with others passing in different ways. Some are instantly sobbing, but for others, it takes time to have the reality of their loss sink in.
The pain will probably hit you later on in life - it could be days, weeks, months, or even years. It's like a delayed reaction to death. Very normal.
I only cried at my grandfather's funeral when I saw my dad break down reading his father's eulogy.
its normal to not cry over a grandparent/great grandparents death. they lived their life and thats what matters
My uncle that is close to me died too and I didn't feel sad at all. I think you're normal.
You're not heartless. His death probably has not hit home for you yet. As others have said it will hit you later.