Is it normal my girlfriend is really messed up?

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Ok, so I started dating this girl online she lives two cities away. We are both women our relationship started five days ago but problems started day one. She seemed a bit weird even at first I asked her ideal date she said a graveyard she said she hates herself and calls herself fat and ugly and says shes not worth love. I tried to tell her over and over shes beautiful but she argues with me every single time. Recently she told me she was throwing up her food because she said she's fat I told her she's perfect the way she is but I would rather her not harm herself that we could exersize together. She was negative about it like she is mostly everything is and said she doesnt have the energy. I been going out of my way to make her try to feel better about herself cute paragraphs, statuses, and always complimenting her nothing works. Everytime we have a conversation she complains it's either her parents or how she hates herself or how shes having a bad day and no one likes her. She keeps telling me that I wont like her for long i'll leave her etc. I honestly don't know what to do I want to be with her but I have struggles myself you know and when she's not being negative shes an amazing girl.

No it's not normal 8
You should break up with her 14
You should try to make things work 4
You should stay with her but also try to help her 9
You should have a talk with her and see how things go 7
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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago | pl

    Leave her.

    You can't let someone guilt you into a relationship by playing on your sympathy. It's incredibly manipulative, but sometimes it happens merely because you're a good person and you feel bad.

    She's basically holding you hostage, and this is a form of abuse.

    When you try to leave, she will most likely attempt to emotionally manipulate you by saying she's going to hurt herself...kill herself, etc etc...she probably won't, but refer her to psychiatrists, suicide hotlines, and inform her family members if you have their contact info. You should never feel obligated to stay with someone just because you feel guilty; you wouldn't be doing her or yourself any favors.

    Just do what you can to help her out, and bail as soon as possible. She is unstable, and there is no way she'd be able to maintain a healthy relationship.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Run!

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  • HeyHiHello
    8 years ago

    There is no such thing as a man in the relationship there is also nothing wrong with two girls being together.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    Two girls in a relationship...lol

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    • cocknballs
      8 years ago

      I know, like one neurotic person isn't enough...

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      • ivanka7242
        8 years ago

        I agree...

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  • Thorolf
    7 years ago

    If you've tried that much, and still nothing, then there's no hope dude. Some people cannot change that way.

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  • Lolax
    8 years ago

    I fucking hate the people like this.

    It's like. Your NOT ugly. "Yes I am" you fucking bitch! We're you dropped on a head when you were a baby?! Obviously you were because you are stupid! Do you know what I'm saying? S...T.....U....P.....I.....D.

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  • HeyHiHello
    8 years ago

    OK so update guys I decided to stay with her and talk to her but I would have left if it continued. She has made a ton of progress she's doing so much better I am hearing more positive out of her. She still denys some compliments but we're working on it turns out she was abused like me and we helped each other through that. She's been amazing I'm so happy I stayed. Thanks for helping though guys it did help me think a little and not freak out.

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  • insanebotv21
    8 years ago

    God damn it... I hate people like this. Too pathetic to help themselves see what they are, too weak to hope and lift themselves up. Too Focused on the sadness to see the light. Why? Is it too much for you? Too much for you to take a god damn minute to appreciate what you have? I don't care how pathetic you could be, fix how pathetic you are now before moving onto hating other things, like normal people do.. Or, better yet, stop hating yourself because you're not exactly making it easier for anyone to actually _like_ you.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Have you met her IRL? Or is this all just
    online?

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  • cocknballs
    8 years ago

    She wants you to abuse her. She would love that.

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  • bumblecreek
    8 years ago

    She's not messed up, she's just an immature manipulative attention seeker. It's up to you really, but the best thing would be to break up with her. Don't waste your time with someone like that when there's so many others who can make you happy.

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  • FJK_frm_AK25
    8 years ago

    If she keeps acting like a lame u will end up getting over her

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  • Stand2260by
    8 years ago

    I found someone like me
    She will ask you about killing someone
    Like:are you ready to kill this guy for me
    I like doing this too

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