Is it normal my girlfriend does this?
A couple months ago, right after I decided to work on "me" for a little while, I met the most prettiest, funniest and greatest girl ever. Before I continue my story and start telling you about the problems I'm facing, I should mention that 1. We're both adults in our twenties and 2. We're both female (I'm not sure why I wanted to mention this, but some people might respond differently if they thought I was a male, I guess?) Anyways..
Despite her being a girl I could potentially spend my life with, I'm starting to see some pattern in our relationship that I think is worth telling you about. I'm worried if this is normal. This girl (lets say her name is Rachel) keeps doing some things which I find rather annoying. I've had several relationships and I've never had this problem. One of the things she does is she mostly makes me feel ugly instead of beautiful. She keeps noticing things about my body and talks to me about it in a way as if it's ugly or wrong. For example.. My breasts are rather small which is a thing every person can see if they saw me naked. Rachel finds it necessary to tell me they are "REALLY SMALL!" like every other week. She says so while she's laughing a little which I find really disrespectfull. This is one of many "body-shaming" things she says about me and I don't think it's normal to keep shaming my body and laughing while doing so. I talked to Rachel about this and she told me that she didn't mean it in a bad way. She is just an observer but loves my body, so she says. Even so.. she still doesn't stop and gets angry whenever I tell her "you said something about my body again..." She'll go in complete "I'm the worst ever!" mode, but days later she will AGAIN shame my body for something. I know she doesn't notice but still.. I would think twice before saying something about her body that would make her feel insecure, wouldn't you all?
She does the this with literally every part of me. From my head to toes, every other week. Whenever we meet up I'm just wondering what flaw she'll come up with next and I don't think that's normal. Don't get me wrong.. she's a great person and just sees a lot of things, but I just think it's weird. She doesn't seem insecure but knows I am and knows it bothers me. She herself only has a problem with her stomach since she finds that she is a bit overweight. Anyways.. I don't know. She seems so full of herself and just loves to only tell me bad things about myself, when all I do is tell her what is beautiful about her.
Is her behaviour normal? If not, what should I do? Do I talk to her again? Because whenever I do, she gets in defence mode saying she knows she sucks for saying so etc. Still nothing changes..