Is it normal my gf tells her friends i’m ugly and dumb?

No, it's not normal. It's nasty and you deserve better. What a cunt.

Hey, dudes replying, can you reinforce that this guy deserves better without being misogynist asshats? Calling a woman a bitch or a cunt, regardless of whether she's a shitty person (Seriously, original poster, dump her. She's horrible. You don't deserve that.) is an insult to every woman. You're saying that being a woman is bad and it's not okay.

She's probably just venting she loves you just needs some space! I do the same thing too. When I spend to much time with someone I only see the traits that annoy me. Spend some time apart makes me realize why I loved that person in the first place!

ummm. What a stupid cunt.

lol

That's really rude and mean, you should find someone who treats you better.

If she is joking it's okay but if not. Sorry dump her

She's not a good girlfriend and you should dump her.

I don't need to read the passage to know that your GF is a bitch.

yes my husband does the same thing to me. I don't like but he says it is all in good fun.

First, have you seen chat-logs or some other proof that she said those things? Unfortunately, it's not unknown for people to create a little drama by exaggerating or even lying about such things.

If you know for a fact your girlfriend said these hurtful things, tell her how that makes you feel, and explain why as you did in your question. If she tries to suggest you're over-reacting or your feelings aren't justified, then that's demonstrating another sort of disrespect. You have the feelings, and she should understand and respect that.

It's okay for her to have her opinions about your appearance and intelligence and how they compare to those of other guys, but she should not be denigrating you when talking with others. If someone says you're not that bright, she should say (and believe) that your good heart and good intentions matter more to her, not agree with them or run you down even more. If someone says you're ugly, she should say (and truly mean) that your appearance doesn't matter to her because of your qualities as a person.

Be aware that if someone agrees with negative things said about their SO, it could be because they're working themselves towards a break-up. Loss of respect is usually a warning sign that a relationship is failing.

No, what she is saying about you is completely inappropriate and unloving! I'm curious as to how she treats you and whether or not she is verbally and emotionally abusing you. I also suspect that she might be manipulating you on some level.

I know three years may seem like a long time, but it might be best for you to cut your losses, dear heart! I just got out of a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship that was on the cusp of turning physically abusive about a month ago, and I'm still pretty messed up inside. I was only with this person about a year, I'm 47 years old and have had my share of unhealthy relationships, but none of them were abusive until this last one. You're still quite young, and I assume this is one of your first relationships if not your first relationship. I want to humbly and earnestly invite you to take a step back, and examine your relationship with this young lady with a critical eye.

I highly encourage you to be fearless in parting ways with this young lady if you have reason to believe that she is manipulative, and or verbally and emotionally abusive towards you. You are a young person who is just starting out and if you stay with this girl you could not only be wasting your precious time, but actually setting a pattern of unhealthy relationships in your life, and believe me that is the last thing you want to do. Trust in your friend who discovered your girlfriend's two faced nature until he gives you a reason to not trust him.

I think it's probably best to break up with this girl and spend time healing and working on yourself, because you certainly don't want to set a pattern of dating unhealthy liars and manipulators in your life. I hope you don't mind my saying that you are at risk, because this is probably your first long-term relationship.

I wish you all the best!

Dump that vapid bitch. Unless you have no self worth or some shit! Lol