Is it normal my future sis in law is high matinence at age 15?

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This girl is my boyfriend but soon to be fiance's 15 year old sister.

She seems to be very high maintenance in that this is what she does. I am curious to see if this is normal behavior for a 15 year old or if she is taking it too far. This girl doesn't have self-esteem issue because she's actually 10x prettier than me in both the face and the body. She constantly receives compliments, is always flirted with, etc and she knows she's pretty because she'll comment on everyone's facebook photos with comments like, "you're gorgeous babe", "you are super pretty", etc and she is very outgoing.

But to me, when I'm around her, she seems high maintenance.

- She has refused photos OR when we tell her to "get in the photo" we're taking, she uses the bathroom for at least 20 minutes and comes back with a full face of makeup and her hair will be curled!

- She always poses the same way in all photos even if it looks odd and staged. She'll only show one side of her face and pout her lips and stand with her legs crossed.

- When we go out for dinner (even fast food like KFC), she'll take 2 hours to get ready and she'll wear 3 inch heels, a skirt and two pounds of makeup.

- She won't let me post any photo of her to FB unless she goes through them first and she has deleted photos of herself AND family photos she was in on my camera/phone!

- She also only wears expensive makeup, perfume, handbags and clothes and has even made fun of my Rimmel London makeup before saying any makeup under $30 doesn't work and that she knows she's worth more than cheap drugstore makeup.

Is she high maintenance or is this a normal 15 year old? It's every time. We can't just go out to the store! I wanted to go to the grocery store and pick something up while she was visiting and she asked if she could take an hour! I have asked her let's go to Tacobell and she'll say she needs an hour when she's already dressed and looks fine! I'm not even lying, she really does look fine. Is this normal or am I crazy?

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    A. Did any one else read "this girl is my boyfriend" and think WTF?

    B. I love the way you called it a camera/phone, so 10 years ago.

    C. This little FB slut is a sad example of what we have become.

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    • ilovetoiletrolls
      9 years ago

      BAHAHAHA this girl is my boyfriend man! lol

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    She sounds insecure. And yes, a person can still have low self-esteem even when they receive compliments.

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      That's what I was thinking, and honestly I was the same way at her age. I don't think her behavior is a big deal really.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    This kid needs a job at McDonalds. Sports might help like soccer or swimming.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    High maintenance? No. She's insecure as FUCK. Everything you described screams insecurity. She's afraid to break her mold. Won't pose differently. Is afraid for people to see her differently (ie: no makeup, imperfect hair, or even a different side of her face) she's afraid for you to post or keep a picture that she doesn't have control over. Take a pic of her and lock urself in the bathroom while u post it. Show her she's being ridiculous. Be careful though. Gorgeous women have a hard time walking the fine line between self esteem and being stuck up.

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    I think you're right to be concerned for her. Some teenagers act that way because they're spoiled and know no better, but lots of kids act this way when they're not spoiled at all. It sounds to me like she's self-policing her image, behaviour and presentation on behalf of her peers, which is very common for adolescents (so much so that sociologists and social psychologists write about this stuff) but it's not very healthy.

    I'd say you should talk to your boyfriend about her - if this behaviour hasn't been going on long it could be a simple phase, but if it's been going on for a while or it continues then it could be a sign of insecurity or a response to the messages she's getting from her media (especially social media). Maybe her parents or your boyfriend (or even you, as someone she might find more relatable) should talk with her about how she feels. She's a person with a heart and feelings even if she's hard to get through to.

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