Is it normal my friend stands up for the people who bully me?

I sometimes get bullied on school, but my friend never helps me. In fact, not only does she not stand up for me, she actually defends the bullies' behaviour.

For example, these girls were calling me ugly on facebook, and I was complaining about them to her, and she just shrugged and said: "I like them, they're nice!"

Another instance, this girl in class who'd said she didn't like me kept making fun of me, and I told my friend. My friend said: "Why do you have something against her?" with a smile on her face. And I was like: "I just told you, she's bullying me! And you know it! You heard her say she didn't like me!" And my friend said: "Yeah, but she didn't intend for you to hear what she said!"

I find this incredibly frustrating. IIN?

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  • She scared of being bullied herself. Not a very good friend. Kill them all

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  • Boo!

    If friends don't stand up for you when you are bullied then they aren’t good friends. I was bullied once.. Well kind of. I have the tendency of making those who bullied me my friends and usually they stood up for me, it’s complicated but I think the reasons I was able to do that was because I didn’t take it I stood up for myself and showed no weakness. People usually look for those who they deem weak and are easy prey. If you show them not to judge a book by its cover, I bet they'll understand and you'll be able to settle your differences and become friends. I've learned that usually people who tried to bully me just wanted to be my friends and they had hard times getting that through and used methods that were well kind of stupid in my opinion. Anyways be strong and try to talk it out with this bully, One to one is probably the best way so then there isn’t any showing off and having to have a fake image. Either you can confront the bully yourself if your alone and communicate with her or you keep being bullied by her.

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  • kupokupo

    Forget them :) true friends are ones who stand by you.

    Ps I have a nuke if you need it? Just let me know.

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  • PrettyLies

    Ugh I had the same kind of friends until 2 years ago, or even worse!... I feel so sorry for you! This is not normal if she's your friend! I hope next year or something, you find some new, true friends!!

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  • Marisol

    Limit contact with them: if you have them as 'friends' on facebook, delete and block them. You can also report them.

    In school, and wherever else you might see them - ignore them. Your friend is probably scared of them.

    Don't be afraid of what your bullies might do. They are much, much weaker and insecure. They may seem tough, but they aren't.

    People called me ugly in high school; it affected me a lot but that didn't stop me from going forward in life.

    Keep on soldiering on. Don't let them bring you down. You need to be strong, trust me.

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  • turdferguson73

    Dump that so-called friend of yours. If she were a true friend of yours she'd stick up for you, not the assholes who make you feel like shit.

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  • drugsrbadmkay

    Find a better friend she's a bitch.

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  • Weirdgirl

    Maybe she just doesn't want to upset anyone, my best friend sucks at standing up for me, like this big gang of bitches were being bitchy and I was back and she says "you all have a fair point" but that's just cuz she's friends with everyone

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  • Queenofdacastle

    Honey, heres what you do.

    -Delete or BLOCK the bullies on Facebook.

    -Tell your friend that what she does upsets you, explain your feelings. However, if you think she wont listen to that, just slowly fizzle out the friendship. Sometimes it happens where if you try to fizzle out the friendship she will be SUPER nice..allegedly though. Don't believe this - she is only trying to get on your good side again - this is known as Using. Don't believe it.

    -Understand that your friend is only afraid to get caught up in the bullying too so she doesn't defend you. You need to leave this piece of dirt and find a better friend(s) who stick up for you.

    -If the bullying is so bad, talk to someone, like a teacher or parent or brother/sister. Hope I helped :)

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    Those aren't friends but traitors. They use you to get more popular with the bullies by pushing you down (means they're actually weak themselves)

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  • BlueAlice

    That is not a friend. That is a bully by proxy. Ditch it and try to find someone who'll treat you better.

    Before that, find a way of humiliating the bullies and making them look bad (even if it's only be doing well for yourself in school and in future life)

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  • denise1290

    Don't ask your friend for help, be confident and tell the bullies to back off, or you can just ignore them

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  • keeping_up_with_da_kids

    It is called beat the shit out of them -_-.

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  • Cheradenine

    They arent your freind. Simple as. Ditch them, and if they give u hassle again, pick the loudest one and smash them in the mouth until u bust a few teeth or go for the nose. Job done

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  • Avant-Garde

    Don't hang around them anymore and block them of of things like FB.

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  • Depends completely. If these people are not saying it to your face, nor wanting you to hear it, then they are communicating their feelings about you, which people do all the time with others, as I'm sure even you have. If you're looking to create drama over someone saying something about you that is in their opinion, then in a way, you are making harmless opinions between others in to a more dramatic situation.

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