Is it normal my friend is in my love life business all the time?
Me and my ex boyfriend are still on good terms. We split up a whole year ago and he basically ripped my heart out. But that's life. We carried on having sex a long time after the split. We haven't had sex in a few months because I was in another relationship, and so was he, but that didn't stop him sending me dirty messages/pictures. We ended up kissing a few weeks ago, nothing more. I'm happy with this arrangement, and so is he. I have no emotional attachment to him since I have just moved on in life. I'd rather be on good terms with in since why should I hold onto hate? I am moving down the road from him coincidentally in a few weeks time, I'd rather we get on.
But every time he texts me, calls me, chats to me on facebook, my best friend in constantly in my face. She basically asks "why the fuck is he talking to you". She constantly tells me he is no good, which he isn't and that's why we are no longer together. We have a different relationship now. I tell her time and time again, I don't mind talking to him and acting civil but she just replies with one word answers and goes and bitches about me to someone that me and my ex are getting back together, that I am stupid/thick/a mug just because she has seen us talking. She has no experience in relationships whatsoever. She claims she does from when she was 13, but come on, who has a full on serious relationship at 13? She constantly tells me off for sleeping with people who I am not in a relationship with because apparently sex is special and precious (she's a virgin) whereas I don't think like that. Sex is just sex. Yes, it can be special when you are in love but it doesn't have to mean everything. I am not in a relationship, do not want one any time soon but I won't give up sex. I feel suffocated by her opinions on my love life. Her nose is always in my business.
My other best friends (from another friendship group) don't mind at all. When I tell them about my love life, they just say it's my choice and if I'm happy then so are they. It's up to me who I sleep with. It's up to me if I want to sleep with my ex with no strings. They're great with stuff like this and never purposely offend me.
So is it normal this one friend is always in my business? She honestly offends me and brings me down. I can't lose her as a friend because she is great with everything else, I just can't take her sticking her nose into all my other relationships. Every time I have a boyfriend and say they turn up half an hour late for a date, she screams at me telling me they are doing it on purpose, they don't really love me, I am a doormatt and they are dickheads. Why?!