Is it normal my friend is friends with someone who did this?

28% Normal
11 Comments

Yesterday me (female) and my friend (male) spent some time together. it was fine until towards the end, where he started talking about his friend. Apparently his friend has raped girls while they were drunk/high. I don't know why my friend suddenly started telling me about this! But the bigger question is why would he be friends with someone like that? I asked my friend: I'm a girl/woman. What if he did that to me? And my friend said "Well, I'd be pissed." Yeah? Then why are you friends with a bad person like that?

My friend said he's broken off contact with this person for about 2-3 months...but...Even if this guy was lying that he has raped people...that's still bad.

Now I'm questioning everything about my friend. I mean, I guess you're not EXACTLY you're friends, but if you have hung around with someone who is at best a creep, at worst a rapist.

Maybe it's because I'm naturally a shy, suspicious, anxious person, but I see this as a red flag. Maybe I will not be friends with my friend anymore.

Voting Results
28% Normal
Based on 36 votes (10 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 11 )
  • PatentedOwl
    10 years ago

    That's awful and it reveals volumes about his character that he would merely be "pissed". Any friend should be horrified an enraged at that thought.
    There are plenty of people for you to be friends with :) It'll be okay.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    4
    4
  • ucipher8
    10 years ago

    Ive always been a fighter for women. till the day i realized i lived with a guy who drugged and raped girls his age (or close to) whom he knew for sex alone and not the kind of sex to not call you back after but the kind that makes you feel ashamed of yourself.

    God forbid i ever see him again. Id give him a handshake and a hug, and then paralyze the shit out of him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    3
    3
  • green_boogers
    10 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with you. It's not you. It's him. Leave him and don't even say goodbye.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
      -
    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Calm down. She stated that he already broke off contact with the guy months ago. What more do you expect this guy to do? Is he sussposed to hunt down the rapist and kill him? Is he sussposed to go to law school and become a cop so he can arrest him?
      Her friend didn't do anything wrong. He cannot control the actions of someone he knows. Sometimes people just know the wrong people. It sounds like he already cut off contact and its done with so she shouldn't have to worry about him bringing the rapist around.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      2
      2
        -
      • green_boogers
        10 years ago

        What you are saying sounds fine. But if nasty/negative people are attracted to the bf, I would leave him to distance myself from the future problems he will encounter.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I actually think you are over thinking this and some of these comments are overreacting. I may get thumbed down, but I'll explain why I say this.

    First of all you say your friend is friends with this guy, even though he already broke off contact with him months ago.
    What more do you expect of him? Do you want your friend to chase down this guy and kill him or something?
    Seriously, what are you expecting out of this?

    Also Sog is right. You shouldn't judge your friend for the actions of someone he knows. Just like anyone, he was not in control of the rapists actions.

    So he has already broke off contact with the rapist, yet you are still upset with him. That doesn't sound logical to me.

    I can relate to this story because I had an ex girlfriend who would judge me for what people I knew did even though I did everything I could to fix the situation. None of it was my fault. I cannot control other peoples actions. These people weren't rapists but she still judged me for their actions even though I had nothing to do with it, which to me was not only illogical of her, but was one of the most frusterating things I have had to deal with.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Fall_leaves
    10 years ago

    Why would he knowingly be friends with a rapist? That's a definite red flag. Get out of this friendship.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Sog
    10 years ago

    Why should you be judging your friend for things that he didn't do? That's not really fair. He can't control what his friends do.

    Obviously it would be different if he were the one raping people, or at least helping his friend get away with it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • ThisIsImpossible
    10 years ago

    Haha what do you think?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Your friend broke off the contact, what else do you want him to do? Hurt him and end up in jail for it?

    Just because he accidentally were friends with someone nasty doesn't mean that he is a creep too! The "good" creeps hide their true nature to EVERYONE and unless caught in the act or talking about it no one ever suspects a thing.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • dickwashington
    10 years ago

    id do little more then not talk to him call the police or punch him in the face or something

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1