Is it normal my friend hates me having boyfriends?

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Everytime I have a relationship my friend always has something to pick at, even when she hasn't met my last two boyfriends.
One time a boyfriend was half an hour late meeting me because his friend fell down and broke his leg. I text my friend saying I was bored and explained why he was late. She then out of nowhere irrationally erupted saying he was a dick, he is treating me like shit, is a liar and he is late because he is cheating on me. None of this was true.
She also accused my next boyfriend of treating me like shit. I don't know where she got that idea. I became homeless, he let me move in and supported us both of his wage. He gave me a nice life and was the best relationship I have had. He was extremely nice. But my friend, who didn't get the chance to meet him, called him a dick.
I like a guy at the moment. Out of nowhere she called him an asshole. I just don't understand it. She has met him before. They seemed to get on, they had a few laughs but suddenly she insults him. He has been so nice and good to me.
One thing I am worried about is that she classes herself as bi. When drunk she tells me she likes someone, but I am not allowed to know. Why? We are best friends. She also texted me the other night whilst drunk saying "I like you". She texts me all day, everyday. Even if I ignore her. Does this have anything to do with it? Or is she just clingy?

Overall, is this normal behaviour for a best friend? I am not sure because I have never had a really close best friend relationship before like we do.

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    If she hates all your boyfriends, clings to you, tells you she likes you and has a "secret crush" that she won't tell you about when she's drunk, odds are extremely good that you are the secret crush.

    She's being an ass about your boyfriends, but if she's in love with you, her anger comes from a place of pain. It's like getting friendzoned times ten because if you're straight, there's absolutely zero chance that she can have the relationship she seems to crave. All she can do is get angry and jealous.

    The other possibility is that her anger comes from a different kind of jealousy. She may not have romantic feelings for you, but if she sees you dating constantly and she doesn't have anyone in her life, her bitterness might come out that way. If she isn't angry that she can't date you, maybe she's angry because she can't date *anyone.*

    It's also possible that you talk about your boyfriends a lot. I mean a LOT. As in, that's all that ever comes up in conversation. Not saying that's definitely the case, but we've all known that one friend who doesn't seem to have anything in his/her head beyond his/her latest boyfriend/girlfriend. Your daily nteractions with friends should pass the Bechdel Test most of the time.

    Have you talked to her about how it hurts you to see someone you care about talk so negatively about someone else you care about? If she can't talk openly and honestly with you about this and find a way to deal with it, she's not a very good friend.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      You seem to be really good at how people think. :) Great comment.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    11 years ago

    It's obvious she has feelings for you if she is bi...And the fact that when she's drunk she admits she "likes someone" gives you the whole story (your her crush)

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    My childhood best friend was a bit clingly and the jealous type. I didn't have many other friends because of her. She would get angry at me for talking to people she didn't approve of. It was a rather ridiculous situation.

    My best suggestion, tell her not to insult people you care about.

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