Is it normal my fiance whats me to be with other men and i dont want t

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At the begining of our relationship ,I was much more open with sharing my past experiences about my x boyfriends this has turned in an extreme fantasy/OBSESSION. We are now engaged and it continually comes up, he wants to talk about it and would be very happy to see me with another man. the idea of this makes me cringe, makes me want to cry and is very hurtful to me. i regret so much being as open as i was in the beginning of our relationship because now it is a deep obsession of his. i am afraid of this ruining our relationship. has anyone else had this same problem? what are your suggestions on how to handle this? he gets turned on and then is very remorsfal at putting me through this pain, but it doesnt stop it from happening more.

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  • lovelychanel2
    12 years ago

    why does this bother you so much? not judging, just genuinely curious. my husband has this fantasy too and i know many guys who have thoughts like this. it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you, doesn't take you seriously or that he's gay. men are visual creatures and i'm actually incredibly flattered that my husband would rather see me than see another woman (porn star, celebrity, friend, etc...)have things done by other men. and you should be flattered too! he must be incredibly attracted to you sexually if he would rather think of you letting men do things to you than not have sex with you and masturbate instead. honestly, unless he's pressuring you to do something you don't want to do i wouldn't put too much emphasis on this. i would just go along with this fantasy every once in a while(describe what you would like other men to do to you, etc...) but afterwards make it clear that you were just talking dirty in bed and wouldn't actually want this to happen. hope you feel better love =)

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  • jchan
    9 years ago

    It sounds like a cuckold fetish. Is that a thing?

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  • com999
    12 years ago

    It could be a fetish. I wouldn't want to do it either. Might cause a problem in the relationship.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    He has to be bisexual. Any boyfriend that I ever had would cringe at what your husband wants. Not normal at all.

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  • stratman
    12 years ago

    He must have a low self esteem/ not be good in bed. That's weird and pretty creepy. Just know that you will probably be dealing with this the rest of your life with him. Sorry you are in that situation... If I were him I'd only want you for myself and would not even want to talk about our past and just focus on eachother and how amazing being together is...

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    This guy isn't ready to be married - he's still a child! I imagine you haven't been together for a long time and so things are still highly charged sexually. I'd say, less than 2 years.

    Don't consider marrying a fool who's ready to jeopardise your relationship to fulfil a silly fantasy!

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  • SwimBikeRun
    12 years ago

    Lovely Chanel. She just said this is causing her pain. People can do whatever they want as long as they are both ok with it and it makes them both happy. Obviously she is NOT happy about this and doesn't want to do it. I'm sorry to say but if he keeps pushing it despite your hesitations I'd reconsider marrying him. Fast!! It will only get worse!

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago

    WTF stop the wedding he sounds like a faggot

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    Dump him. There is something seriously messed up with someone who has such maladaptive attractions. It is completely in-conducive to a healthy relationship and would be even less so for a future family. This is a sick self-destructive attraction that is also seriously harming you. GTFO of it ASAP.

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