Is it normal my fiance doesn't like to do anything at all?

Thats Pretty much it. My fiance doesn't like to do anything with me and I feel like we've lost that special connection. The only thing he likes to do is have sex, if were not having sex I feel like were in different rooms even though were sitting right next to eachother on the couch. I try to play with him in different ways and most the time he doesnt even listen to what I'm saying. Just watches his t.v. I'm an active person and I like to do things he never wants to do anything but sit on the couch. Doesnt want to talk, doesnt want to go to town, and just gets mad anytime I try to get him off the couch and says he worked all day he is tired but even on his days off thats all he does. So I dont even want to have sex anymore because I feel like thats the only time he needs or wants me. He used to make me feel special, you know. And used to like to do things with me. But now, nothing and when I question him on why he never talks to me barely, he says he just has nothing to say. And he could care less about my emotions anymore. When I've cried hes told me to just stop and I needed to man up because thats just the way the world is. And I am by no means a crybaby. I barely ever do. I'm one who holds in all my emotions untill the bottle just explodes. and when I used to cry he would just grab me and hold me and tell me everythings gonna be alright. But now he just ignores the fact that I am or tells me to quit being a baby. So I dont. And now I feel like I'm becoming emotionless like him. And there is just so much more but I cant type it all. He used to be so nice, caring, gentle, and make me laugh and smile like no other. and now hes become so cold and distant. I dont know I'm tired of typeing. But do you think this is normal?

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Based on 45 votes (6 yes)
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  • joybird

    He's not Mr Right. The engagement is a trial period when he's supposed to be on his best behaviour. They usually turn into lazy boring farts AFTER you marry them.

    Get out there and get a life.
    Meet someone more suitable to your way of life - otherwise you'll become a couch potato too. Or, you will leave him after a couple of years coz you are too bored to stay in and babysit him.

    Run for your life girl!!

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  • BigScaryRooster

    Dump him. Things will only get worse if you continue living together.

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  • ebonysky

    You aren't happy right now so I suggest you really think about ending your engagement. If this is how he is acting now there is a strong possibility that it will not get better. Ultimately he is taking for granted that you will be there. Available for his needs but has no intention to take care of yours. It's time to stop talking and start being proactive. Go out with friends, if you don't have any then get some. Go out to clubs and not be available for his every wish. By being there you are showing him that you are accepting his behavior. And that shit needs to stop now!

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  • Avant-Garde

    He sounds depressed. I think he should see a therapist for individual therapy. Together, you could benefit from couples counselling.

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  • Koda

    Your fiancee is probably depressed. It might very well be that he's dissatisfied with your relationship, but it might be something else. The lack of enthusiasm, the change in his behaviour, and the fact he doesn't want to do things he previously enjoyed doing are all classic signs of major depression. This'll be a sensitive topic to broach with him for sure. My father has become like this in middle-age. All he does when he's not working is watch TV. He puts his whole life on "ignore", and doesn't want to talk either. He's also irritable and changes the subject like your fiancee does when he's confronted.

    First you have to accept that your husband is probably depressed, and that it's not your fault. Then you have to figure out a way to try to get through to him if he means that much to you. Don't start by telling him you're upset that he never does anything with you. Instead, ask him what he wants to do, and tell him you want to do what makes him happy, and that you want to be a happy couple again. Tell him you're concerned about him, and that you take his change in behaviour very seriously.

    Above all, keep telling him you love him. If he never responds to any of this, you have to realize it might be about you, break the engagement, and move on.

    I wish you luck.

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  • Sunshine:)

    Maybe he's not the right person for you.

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  • blaster

    Yeah had a gf like that. Only thing she wanted to do was go to her mums , every w/end, f'king hell.
    I use to drag her out and off to things , even got her camping a couple of times but at the end of the day she'd still just race back to her mums as soon as she got the chance. Apart rom sex ,watching tv, that's really all she wanted to do.
    I gave up in the end , she was a bitch anyway so.

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  • buttons

    Don't become emotionless! Don't let him take your heart. I don't know the guy so I don't know if breaking up would be the best idea, but you should do whatever you can to find out if it is.

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