Is it normal my ear hurts when i stress?

OK im at a stressful moment in my life ill spare you the details but basicly the night befor my last court date my ear hurt extreamly bad so i cleand it but as i was cleaning my left ear i felt a pop and my ear realy hurt after about ten minuts of pain i googled what was wrong with me (at this point the pain grow to the hole left side of my face) on google i found something saying "let steam get in your ear you may have a ear infection" i did what it sead and it felt slitghtyly better but my vison was geting varry blury to the point i got scard for my health then i went to look in the mieor and saw my eye was RED fully RED i startd freaking out and woke up my dad he sead doctor was closed and we had to get on a plain to goto court he then made me a cup of tea i drank it and felt slightyly better when i was waiting to goto court my ddad keept telling me i had stuff in my eye i was rubing it to get the stuff out and a odd coulr of gunk was comeing out but ther was nothing we could do after court my dad and i walkd around intell we stumbld apon a new bathroom i sat ther and got all the gunk out of my eye it was then i figur out it was ear wax (YUCK!) later that day we returnd to the airport and i had more gunk in my eye my ear hurt real real bad and i was ready to be home but by the time i got home it felt alot better so i went to sleep next day i was pretty much fine now about 2 -3 weeks later im starting a new school in a new city its the night befor and my ear HURTS i remember this pain from that day im not going to clean my ear im scard it will "pop" agein is this normal or can anyone explane this to me