Is it normal my dad is so depressing that it drains my optimism

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I have struggled with depression and anxiety for a long time. This year, I had a break down of sorts and reached out, and my condition has been improving greatly. However, my father is still the same depressive/withdrawn person he has been for years, and it's really effecting me.

I'm 20 but I can't afford to move out so I'm stuck here with him. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with him, that he's justified and superior for disconnecting from the world around him. He has no joy in his life, and being around him triggers off a reaction in me to be back to my old depressed, hopeless self. When I know that there are things to be enthusiastic and energized by.

Is this making any sense to anyone out there? Or am I alone in this? I just want to be around positive people as I fear I'll relapse and never truly break free of depression, never see my full potential. I think it might be worth getting counselling/therapy.

Anything you can say about this, advice or even acknowledging this problem would be really appreciated.

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  • noid
    8 years ago

    Yes it's normal. But some optimistic people are annoying too when they are shallow and smiley and can't relate to people whose lives/world aren't bright and enjoyable. Anyway hope you can find good activities and people and not have to be around him a lot.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Definitely try to be there for your Dad. But also try to learn when you have to make some space.

    I've been in your exact same position and it wasn't easy. Just try to get out more and keep distracted and try to motivate your dad too. It might not seem like he's listening or he's stuck in his world but sometimes the words get through.

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  • Ramasinc
    8 years ago

    OK. You are going through quite a lot and so is your father. Because he may lack some of the skills you have such as a better education, he is going to need your support. Go to UDEMY - Google's university or to ITUNES university to get courses for both of you to take. This is a practical way to address one of the causes of your depression. Focus on finding a job or creating a business.

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  • Stand2260by
    8 years ago

    I am more like your father,but you should help him I won't take help from anyone specialty my son or mom
    But try hard to help him

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