Is it normal my brother got thrown in jail?

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...Don't even know if I feel like putting in the effort to type this out, but here goes.

My older brother got thrown in jail 2 days ago. It's not the first time he's got in trouble with the law either. He was already on probation and all kinds of shit. He's been fucking up pretty consistently for a while now. Doesn't hold a steady job, does drugs and shit, hangs out with the wrong type of people, typical bullshit you know? I bailed him out one time and he never paid me back fully. I kind of guessed he wouldn't though. I should have known better I guess. I just don't know why he has to be such a fuckup all the time. It makes me ashamed of him really. I feel sorry for him, because he's my brother and I love him, but at the same time, I'm getting sick of it. Everyone is. I guess it's time for tough love, because I'm not bailing him out again.

Is it normal that I feel this way, and have you ever had family members get thrown in jail and expect you to get them out?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Don't bail him out again. You helped him once, and he didn't learn with love. Now he has to learn by punishment.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Let him stay in jail, maybe he will learn something. Why waste your money bailing him out when you will never get it back? Fuck that tell him to come see you when he has his shit together. Nobody needs that bullshit in their life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Well as one of the people at IIN that has been to jail I can tell you this, it's true that you don't learn anything and come out worse. I was only there for 6 months but when i got out fuck was i angry. Tough love might work better when he isn't in jail, but with people like this it usually doesn't work at all. The only way he'll change is by wanting to himself, and coming to that decision on his own.

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    • uPSIDEOFDOWn
      11 years ago

      once again we find ourselves at a crossroads...i learned more from my 18 month imprisonment than i have from anything else. thats not to say i haven't fucked up since--i honestly still do. But, I fuck up less and learn more from the mistakes i do have, and i think its because of what ive applied from mandatory group therapy.

      but maybe its just the prisons in america that have moral slants, right? ;)

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Depends how you spend your time there. I'm the type of person who acts up when i get bored so it was difficult and i wasn't "popular" with guards or cons. The prison i was in is notorious for being poorly run and lacking in any sort of helpful programs. I just got more and more pissed off each day. And all the fucking retards you meet in there never helps. Some better themselves like you, but most do not. It's not a good idea to count on his time bettering him.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    Sometimes you have to let someone pay the price for their own actions.

    If you're always bailing someone out... what does that person learn?

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  • stephaniedawnn
    11 years ago

    Honestly I'm back and forth about this too.. Lol. I'm thinking you should let him stay in there to learn his lesson. But on the other hand that's your brother. You know ?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yeah, I DO know, I do know...

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    i got sent to jail for a couple years for a murder i didnt commit all i can say was... thosenadult cartoons where ppl get raped in jail are basicly true story (my brother was the murderer cuz he turned himself in)

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  • uPSIDEOFDOWn
    11 years ago

    I went to jail for a while and learned a shit ton. let him stew :)

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Let him stay in and jail and when he comes out stage a intervention.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    I've had such family. They have to make their own choices. Judging won't solve anything, neither will bailing him out. He needs to know you'll be there for him- when he's ready for proper help. Until then, it's too painful to watch while you know that you can't help.

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