Is it normal my boyfriend wont breakup with me ?

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Our entire relationship has SUCKED past the 3rd month. Its been 5 years we've been together.

It started downspiraling when i got kicked out of my apartment, and went to new york to stay with my godsister. i got raped and concieved a child. At that time abortion was $700 and i was broke and homeless. Never told my bf what happened becuz we hadnt been togetherthat long.

Scared and defeated i told him eventually. Came into some money and bought a house. Told him he was welcome to move in if he forgave me.
He did.

He never believed i was raped tho there are witnesses.
So he placed himself on a pedalstool.
2 Years into the relationship we lost a son together.

Had another son. 2 years later.
So now im a stay at home mom with 2 kids to raise. Hed belittle me any time i didnt do dishes or wash and fold and put away his clothes, or not take out the trash becuz "I work and you stay home all day doing nothing" [even at 9 months pregnant, i was "lazy"]
Belittles me some more cuz i complain he only is ever nice to me when hes horny.
Belittles me for getting a job when he was fired. I got fired then (one customer ignores my attempts to order their drinks, blatantly. "Not thirsty". Then complains i wouldnt serve him. Guessing becuz im black and no one else is. )
Belittles AGAIN cuz i complain he only loves me when he wants sex. Which was 100% true. He come home, say hi, undress, eat and silently play his games til he went to sleep. He even admits thats all he did but never notices how he never spoke to me kindly unless it was a "hey" for sex. Never failed.

A month after i give birth, i break up with him.

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  • Keepsake
    7 years ago

    I think the reason he never broke up was because you were there for whatever he wanted: sex, food, chores, etc. Hope things get better from here, though.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Keepsake is right.

    You've survived raped, given birth more than once, and bought yourself a house to support yourself and your children. You're capable and stronger than you realize. You don't need this prick.

    He's just a feeeloader settling into your life, because you have all that he needs and he doesn't have work hard to get it. He feels you're too desperate to leave him, which is why he thinks he can treat you whatever way he wants.

    I'm glad you left him, and I'm sorry for what happened to you. Understand that none of this is your fault, and he shouldn't have made you apologize for rape. He should have believed you. Please, never go back, he isn't with your time or love.

    https://centers.rainn.org (Hopefully this helps if you need someone to talk to).

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    What isn´t normal is why you´d stay with him for such a long time when he´s been nothing but a jerk :L

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