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When we first got together we made a deal no anal. Two years later he is asking if we can try it. He said his friends were talking about how awesome it is and wants to give it a try? Is it normal to change his mind like this?
in exchange, offer to put on a strap on dildo and plunge into his butt :)
If that was the case, then I would be suggesting to every girl I meet to try anal.
I can't find a girl to fuck me in the ass with a strap-on, maybe they'll do it in spite like you suggest instead of just to be nice.
You know, my friend with benefits at the moment is really keen on the idea of fucking me in the ass.
I honestly don't know if I will let her. Even if it would feel good, I guess it's the risk of feeling emasculated that concerns me. I guess we'll see if she ever talks me around. You're a braver man than I, anyway.
Just think of it as a massage for your anus.
Personally, it's a turn on to feel emasculated in a way. I watch pornos where the girl is all like " Oh yeah, you like that? take that dick you dirty slut. yeah, you love it when i fuck yer ass you dirty little whore" etc.
Then again, I've always wanted to be a girl so I could have fun being a dirty slutty whore who fucks guys in the middle of a raging party. And the only way I can get off while a guy is fucking my ass is if I imagine I'm a hot girl in a sexy skimpy outfit fucking guys in front of a bunch of people. Or if I imagine that it's a girl fucking me.
Yeah the submissive stuff just doesn't do it for me. I guess my ego gets in the way. I don't find being humiliated or submissive turns me on.
However, I have had a prostate massage (sort of) before whilst getting a handjob and it made me cum quicker and harder, so I could be missing out on something good.
See the above reply to davesumba.
I would honestly urge you to try it, she sounds like a real good girl and you really don't know if or when you will ever get another adventurous one.
Try using a 'feeldoe' she will have an orgasm too, and if your timing is right you can both cum together.
People change over time and what they want in terms of sex is included in that, so it's normal. If you don't want to try it: either tell him "no", or negotiate and trade it in return for him trying something new for you.
I never liked anal, it was very hard for me to relax because it was so uncomfortable. But the guy I'm with now helped me relax and we used lube, which made the process so much easier. Now I actually enjoy it. :)
anal is awesome! i'm a girl and i love it. Just get some lube, relax and let your boyfriend enjoy every hole. I also highly recommend face fucking, is exciting to feel the whole dick getting to your throat.
please make sure the both of you do plenty of research before you try! there's lots of beginners guides on google, if you do it wrong he'll ruin it for you forever!
You made a DEAL, no anal?! What the fuck. You made a deal on a sex act. That's so fucking weird. Stop being such a prude and spread those ass cheeks.
have not read every ones comments but if you want some genuine advise, change your perspective on Anal. It doesn't have to hurt, it can feel really good, you just need to communicate with your partner, use plenty of lube, and take it slow.
My ex was willing to try anal sex before vaginal sex. To each their own.
You made a deal no anal? Who does that. Anyway if he cheats cause he cant get anal then hes not worth the relationship.
Is it normal that a guy wants to find different/better ways to get his rocks off? Yes! Is it normal that you don't want to do anal? Yes! End of discussion.
WOW, what a crazy lot of characters you all are...
First, why is he talking to his friends about your sex life? this is your private area. Second, is sex all that your relationship is based on? Third, try different things when you both agree otherwise, no. Is the relationship that rocky or shakey?
Don't people talk with their partners anymore? If you don't want to you don't want to...he should be happy you even look at him with any kind of interest in sex after that.
Oh lol. The first time I ever did that with a chick she cried and I accidentally laughed, she got kind of mad. But she ended up letting me do it anyway, it was fine once she got used to it.
Well, in my opinion you guys should at least give it a proper try.
This said, if you really really don't feel like it you wont feel relaxed and the whole experience will probably be unpleasant for you :L
Tried anal once (me inside the girl), and honestly? Yuck.
The lube turned brown.
Was kinda weird fingering her pussy and feeling my cock though her pussy wall (kinda got a kick from that), but otherwise, not my first choice of sexual activity.
Tou should consider it because if you already have sex(which im guessing you do) you wont be left pregnant
If you want it up the ass, fine and if you don't that should be fine. This is a no-brainer.
I would not have cheated on my wife if she said no.She however loves anal sex.She actually was going to withold any sex with me if I didnt let her have me anally.Well,to make a long story short,we are both anal sluts and love giving as well as recieving anal penetration.P.S.Hers is bigger than mine.
Mine does and I even scream when I have to enema myself.
Enemas are like a centimeter in CIRCUMFERENCE
If I had a gf I would definitely say yes to getting my butt plunged by a strap on. lol bring it ;D.
Yes it is extremely normal as you all put it, it is a sexual art that has been practised for as far back as you can think, to put it blunt, it is a hole, and he has theoretically speaking got a penis so he may well want to put it up there at some point. If you feel uneasy about doing it however there are plenty of web pages with lots of information on how to progress into doing anal, if you do plan on doing it make sure to use lots of lube, if you feel cleanliness is an issue, there are plenty of safe ways to clean before you try anything anally! As I say to everyone stay safe, be careful and have fun :)
He probably always wanted anal but didn't want you to feel pressured into trying it? Only try it if you want to though :)
To me, it is normal for some guys to have a desire to have anal sex with their girlfriends, wives. From my point of view is this, it is up to you, it's your decision if he keeps pressuring you,
I'd tell him to stop or find someone else.
Any type of pressure to give in on anal sex or oral sex or any kind of sexual intercourse is the same as forced rape. This is my opinion, if he loves you HE WILL NOT FORCE YOU TO DO ANYTHING YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO. (No matter what his friends say or do, he is with you not them.
Me myself I love anal sex I have had it several times with several women, my wife loves it, she says the orgasms are more intense than any of the others, but it was them who either asked or said yes, when I asked I never forced them, we would have it that while we tried if at any point she changed her mind or it hurt too much I would stop no matter what.
A few times it happened by accident but, it turned out great.
It is up to you if you do decide to go through it. Take it slow there are a lot of things you both should know before you do it. I hope I have answered your question, and helped you in anyway.
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Good luck.
nopw never i don't want to pot the brown thank you very much.
My dip stick is not for you poo chute.
What the hell? You think men will cheat if they don't get their every sexual desire fulfilled?
You have a low opinion of men, or are hanging out with the wrong men.
I'm sorry to say this but you are a fucking IDIOT, my girlfriend doesn't like anal because of an ex, however did try it with me to see if when done right she liked it, she started to but just because we don't do it often in fact its very rare but I wont cheat on her for us not doing it I'm happy with her in every way, you really need to hang around better men if that's what you know of them stop dating boys and date real men who want to be with you for who you are, not for having a lot of sex.
I wish you hadn't said that, or that I hadn't read it. I also wish it wasn't true.
He didn't change his mind he always wanted to he was hoping you would soften your view with time.