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My boyfriend always wants to have anal. It really seems to turn him on alot, but I am not really into it. I want to make him happy but I dont want it to hurt. Does it hurt doing anal?
Rules for proper anal.
1. Enema - cleanliness is next to godliness, plus it moisturizes the lining of the rectum and helps relax the inside.
2. Lube. Gel lube is usually best, like Astroglide or KY.
3. Start slow and work your way up. Don't expect to take a fist on your first night. Start with a finger, then two, then a small dildo, etc.
4. More lube. The rectum doesn't self lubricate. You can't get to much lube. If you have a device where you can inject the lube inside of you, that is even better.
5. If it doesn't hurt, you are doing it right. It may eventually start to feel like you need to push. Doing so may make the feeling increase. Continuing this will bring you to a true anal orgasm.
There are ways of making it hurt less, but it's always going to hurt to an extent. Educate yourself about other people's experiences and lubrication before trying it. Don't just assume he'll know. My friend tried it with his partner with zero preparation and she bled for about a week.
If you are not disgusted by the thought of anal sex, only 'not really into it' I say give it a try, at least you will know whether you like it or not.
At first I can hurt but if your partner is patient and pays attention to you then it will be alright. Don't start the things straight with anal, do vaginal sex before. Use condom and lots of lube, for example this one:
www.edenfantasys.com/sex-lubricants/water-based/maximus#pcode-TTF
And do things slowly in the beginning.
It's likely you're going to feel discomfort. Before I give real advice, how old are you?
Well, it depends.
Many people actually do enjoy it, both girls and boys.
So there's nothing to be afraid of, really.
The only thing is -explain to you boyfriend that he needs to be slow and careful until you can adjust.
Lay on your sides in a spooning position where you have the control to guide it in. Then move your hand and let him go. Lots of lube and interaction while the motion is going too.