Is it normal my boyfriend thinks i'm a gold digger?

Anyone who is in a relationship with someone has the right to expect a bare minimum of kindness. He is treating you worse than he would treat a friend, an acquaintance, or probably even the person behind the counter at McDonald's. He's being mean.

When someone is mean to you, don't stick around for it. It doesn't matter if it's a friend, a boyfriend or even a relative. No one has to put up with that. In your post, I hear you calling yourself socially inept, but he is appalling. The guy clearly has a huge ego and a mean disposition, which is a bad combination.

He is King Joffrey Baratheon.

Dump his vicious ass and keep your dignity! You are not socially inept, nor are you a gold-digger. You're just involved with an emotional abuser who has gotten inside your head with those negative messages. Refuse to hear it any more! You wouldn't take that from a friend, co-worker or classmate, and you sure as hell shouldn't have to take it from someone who says he cares about you.

People who love you won't be cruel to you.

What. The. Fuck. Sounds like you got a spoiled, conceited, controlling, little boy. Dont date someone who makes you feel less of a person.

Gold digger? Leave this cocky fuck.

He's a jerk. Don't be afraid to leave him..

This is awful. Not just the "gold digger" comments he's making, but everything else you said that's going on leading up to that as well.

If someone ever told me that they were "doing me a favor" by dating me, I would just walk away and never look back. That's one of the worst things you could ever say.

It's very rare that I read something on this site that makes me genuinely angry. You deserve way better than this.

Well, for abusive little boys, this is perfectly normal behavior.

Seriously, he is abusing you and it's only going to get worse as time passes, so do yourself a favor and drop him like a bad habit before you get hurt.

He's just going to keep getting worse. Dump him now before you feel too attached to want to leave him.

Leave. Get as far away from this guy as you possibly can.

Dump him! If you don't have a job then get one and try to get yourself an education. He is toxic and if you stay with him it will only get worse and spread like a cancer.

I know from experience what it can be like to be belittled by a partner in a relationship, and it is so confusing and distressing. Your feelings can seriously cloud your viewpoint of your partner and you'll absorb so much bullshit from them that it will wear you to a husk. If you don't want to leave him (for some reason) you need to make it clear that he's a freak and he's endangering the whole relationship. And make sure he knows it's HIS fault. Don't let him think otherwise.

Sorry, but let's keep it real, your boyfriend sounds like a complete D-bag. What else would you think of someone who seems to get off on degrading his girlfriend the way you have explained?

The bottom line is no woman should have to put up with that, which includes yourself. I can see this situation continuing to escalate. The longer you stay with him, the bigger his ego will become. I'm sure it's not easy for you as you mentioned you have developed a good relationship with him, but I would suggest you take the advice of others on here and get rid of him. He obviously needs to learn a few things. He will never have a girlfriend for very long if he continues at this rate, and there's no question you could find a gentleman that treats you better no matter what.

He's an asshole and you should terminate the relationship promptly.

Plain and simple - he is a douche. If he's right, then you're the worst gold-digger I have ever known unless McDonald's suddenly became a 5 star restaurant.

Learn to read the signs before its to late. It seems that so many people have to be in a very bad relationship before the can know the difference in a bad one and a great one good luck with your choices

I'd kick him to the kerb. He sounds like a loser. Better to be on your own thank with a control freak who thinks he's doing you a favour. He will only get worse. Leave while you still have your sanity!

he has delusions of grandeur and makes you suffer for it

He sounds like an asshole.

You're gonna be gaining a lot more by leaving him than staying.... in fact there's nothing to your benefit staying with him at all... It's people like him responsible for your withdrawn nature.

I don't know what kind of guys you've met but that is no gentleman.

Listen, and listen good! NO ONE deserves to be treated this way. I don't care how low you feel about yourself, you don't deserve to be treated this way. If you feel there is a problem with you, then fix it, but PLEASE dump this jerk. He is not going to help you grow as a person. From the context, it sounds that you are very young, you have plenty of life ahead of you to find the right person. Don't settle. A person who loves you will always think greatly of you and would never even consider to diminish you. I've always said, if my partner makes me feel happy 97% of the time, then he's the one, anything lower than that means I deserve better!

This post was almost SCARY accurate. I'm going through the same thing right now. I almost always go to McDonalds with my boyfriend and although we do take turns paying, he makes jokes about me being a golddigger and also leaving him when he has no money, which makes no sense, because he always spends money on my debit card. I am also pretty socially awkward, and my boyfriend is starting college and wants to be a doctor as well lol. The best thing to do is just express yourself. Confront him, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he doesn't understand, he's not worth your time.

Nothing about what you just described about your relationship is normal.

break up. sooner rather than later because I guarantee it's going to be a nasty drawn out one.

You have asked for help, and I will help you.

1) Please discontinue associating males that you are interested in, with Guy Fawkes.

2) Your friend, is probably not a 'boy'. A boy is a pre-pubescent male. A 'man', is a male who has had vaginal sexual intercourse (at least on three previous occasions, in my opinion). Please try 'male companion' or 'male consort', instead.

3) Is this male friend of yours, actually a gentle man?
Probably not.

Origin: Middle English gentil, from Anglo-French, from Latin gentilis of a gens, of one's family, from gent-, gens gens, nation; akin to Latin gignere to beget — more at kin.
First use: 13th century

4) If you think that he could find another [?] friend who is a girl, then let him.
Although there is nothing wrong with having young friends, it is socially unacceptable to have sexual relations with them.
A 'girl', is a pre-pubescent person of either sex.
Use of this term in reference to adolescents or adults, is sometimes offensive.

5) If he threatens you with words like, "putting up with your bullshit", then simply remind him that he is Usually Vulgar, and that he is in Violation of Rule #10 & Rule #8.

6) If he "jokes" about you being a "gold digger", either agree with him, or disagree with him. Let's see if he's intelligent enough to resolve this.
You could agree, in that you are charming, but disagree in that you are not singing or chanting to extract money or gifts.
Then there's the connotation of 'magic', which is a simple illusory deception.
You could also ask him if he would like to go prospecting for gold with you.

7) Do you, in fact, keep an ass? It is unadvisable to sit on any wild ass (Genus: Equus), as this would probably result in serious injury.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wild_ass

Doctors start out in debt and with the new healthcare bill doctors will be making less money than they used to in the past.
He's not really showing any of this potential now though...getting an allowance? How young is he??