Is it normal my boyfriend says people dont 'need' each other

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My boyfriend says that people don't 'need' each other - we've been in a relationship for 5 years. I was in the Intensive Care Unit for a week and the evening I came out of hospital, he went out on the town with his friends - even though I had said I needed him there that evening. I think people do need each other? And we all offer different things to different people - I had my family around me but it would have been great if he was there too. Am I talking nonsense or is this an issue? I guess I'm wanting an objective opinion - love is blind...

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NotFloydzie

11 years ago | pl

Love is not blind, honey. You need another boyfriend.

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- Allistalla
  
  11 years ago
  
  you really need a new boyfreind Floyd is right . Anyone who isnt their for you after you get outve the hospital is not really in love with you . He proboly got a new chick for all you know he does not really love you or he wouldve been exstatic when you came out of the hospital and would not leave your side atleast for a few days he wouldnt start doing things without you anymore .
  
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  - Allistalla
    
    11 years ago
    
    Get a new lover whoever it may be but if anyone who doesnt want to be thier after you get out of the hospital is a complete ass . I remember my Ex freaked out becuase he was told I died and was so happy see me alive we hadnt even been dating anymroe . Infact he is not even a freind he was with you to do things when you werent in the hospital but as soon as you went into trouble he flew the cope . Anyone boyfreind freind infact should care about you .nomatter what if you go to a hospital they should still be thier " /
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank you. I do appreciate your answer :) helping me see the truth! I guess I'm realizing there are plenty more fish in the sea! Ones who treat their girlfriends better!
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    11 years ago
    
    Sounds like you already knew this and made a pointless post about it anyway.
    
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    - flutterhigh
      
      11 years ago
      
      Or she always takes the advice of the first internet stranger who replies?
      
      WIRE ME FIFTY DOLLARS.
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      He made me doubt myself - tried to make me sound too clingy. Often people outside of the relationship have a clearer view of what's happening...
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        11 years ago
        
        No, they don't really. Lots of people think that but it's nonsense. You're in it! If you're halfway smart you should know what to do. They see half a relationship...most people actually fuck up because of some idiots advice, especially someone who's never met either of you lol.
        
        For all we know, he's great and you're crazy lol.
        
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  - DannyKanes
    
    11 years ago
    
    Floydzie is right, you should listen to Floydzie :)
    
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julialynn

11 years ago

That is another way of saying "I will NEVER marry your ass" Every savvy woman knows that if she doesn't get a ring or married at the City Hall within a year she should dump him. You are being used and will end up an old maid with your standards.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

When it comes to social means, we don't need other people.

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GoraIntoDesiGals

11 years ago

I'd tell him ok if you don't need me I'm gone.

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jaygatsby9909

11 years ago

People do need each other. It's a basic human need. However, you do not "need" every person in your life. There are ones who can be let go. Was your boyfriend insensitive? Absolutely. Should he be called out on it? For sure. You don't need him in the basic sense of the word and you were looking for him to provide emotional support that he clearly was not interested in providing. If that is something that is important to you then you need to talk to him about it and if he can't do that then it is time to move on. Just tell him you can be unhappy all on your own and you don't need his help.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank you
  
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Squambly+

11 years ago

Personally I dont think people NEED each other. I think it's just nice for them to be there.That was kind of a jerk move. I hope he doesn't do that often.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Our arguments all have a common factor - I think what we expect of each other differs
  
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flax

11 years ago

He only said that to remove himself from the guilt he feels but hadn't dealt with. If my bf did that to me, he'd end up with a street lamp shoved very far up his ass.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  There's a nice long one near my house...good idea ;)
  
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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

Was he abused in his past? Did people he cared about prove to be unreliable? If so, then his "problem" is stemming from a psychological source. Try to get him help.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  No, but a lot of family issues
  
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alv1592

11 years ago

If he doesn't care about you, he's not worth it. I suggest you break up with him. Good luck finding someone better, I'm sure you will eventually.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks
  
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crazogirl

11 years ago

Sometimes I don't need people, but he is just using asociality as a scapegoat for being an asshole. Find another boyfriend (or girlfriend if you want). He obviously doesn't give two shits about you or what you need.

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Captain_Kegstand

11 years ago

You have a crap boyfriend. I'm sorry but you deserve to be treated better than that!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks!
  
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GuessWho

11 years ago

Even if you don't 'need' him, the fact that you wanted him there should have been enough for him. He should have actually wanted to be with you at that time. He obviously doesn't care enough about you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  That's exactly what I said to him. He said he hadn't seen his friends in a couple of weeks, so wanted to have a good evening. So I started to doubt myself and what I expected in a relationship. Thanks for your comment.
  
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bananaface

11 years ago

I think that people need each other. Well, I know that I do:)

Notfloydzie is right

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