Is it normal my boyfriend says he may cheat on me if i go away?

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I told my boyfriend I'm going on vacation in the summer for 9 days. He freaked out and was like, " oh my god, 9 days!? I don't know if I'll be able to handle myself that's a long time." He said that I should have talked to him about it first but it's to see my best friend and I only get to see her a few times a year if that. I don't think I need to ask him for permission or negotiate how much time I go spend with my best friend. Later he mentioned that he's afraid he might cheat on me and I'm like that's ridiculous you should be able to handle yourself. What do you guys think?

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  • kateykins
    10 years ago | pl

    He sounds very controlling. It sounds like he told you he might cheat in order to get you to change your plans. That's just emotional manipulation. Does he try to control other things in your life? If yes, dump him!

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    • confusion123
      10 years ago

      Yeah, I can think of a few other things. It's hard because I love him so much but I know the things he gets upset about, like this for example, are probably not right. I never thought of emotional manipulation but that's a good way to put it.

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      • kateykins
        10 years ago

        It's a good thing that you realize that this is a problem. Being your own person and controlling your own life is something I value above everything else, so I could not stay with somebody who got mad about me travelling. I'm sorry you're in that position. I wish you luck.

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        • confusion123
          10 years ago

          Thank you, ill need it lol

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  • LostSoul22
    10 years ago

    He sounds insecure, you should be able to make plans to visit friends with out having to talk to him about it first. Its your life not his, its your time not his.
    This is more so a his problem then it is yours

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  • DandyElfman
    10 years ago

    Yeah that's a sign that you need to leave his ass.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    He sounds like a selfish bastard. I definitely agree with the emotional manipulation idea and more than likely if he cheats on you he'll blame it on your absence instead of taking responsibility. You know what to do if he cheats.

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    Dude may even be borderline nuts. It's only 9 days. Not a big deal at all. Just text him a little bit on your vacay and when you get back slap him around.

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  • Femke
    10 years ago

    He is saying he might cheat to manipulate you and scare you into staying. It has nothing to do with being able to control himself. He is a controlling type who wants things his way. Very obvious.

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