Is it normal my boyfriend's mum...

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... treats me like a daughter?

Okay, so I've been seeing my boyfriend for a couple of months, and met his mum and dad about 6 or 7 weeks ago. His mum is... absolutely nuts! But she's really nice to me and treats me like family (despite how short a time I've known her), inviting me to family things and stuff. She even says "I love you!"!!! Anyway, I usually go and stay there on a saturday night (I don't get to see my bf for long otherwise because of lack of public transport to where I live) but she and my boyfriend's dad are getting married in a few weeks and next weekend is his stag do, so I wasn't going to go up obviously, but she's like "Come up anyway and we'll have a girls' night!" I just find it a little... strange? :s I like that she accepts me, but find it strange how she treats me pretty much like a daughter when she doesn't really know me that well... She had two miscarriages before she was able to have my boyfriend, so the psychologist in me can't help but think this might be something to do with it? :s The whole family are really close, though, as well. So... Is it normal to act that way toward your son's girlfriend of only a couple of months? Thanks.

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    I basically just heard: is it normal some people are nice and affectionate? Yes, it is.

    You should feel lucky and blessed. Most people have a very hard time trying to get along with their significant other's family and loved ones, if you haven't noticed. Many people struggle with jealousy, envy, and all sorts of negative feelings. Don't take that for granted, enjoy it. :)

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Be happy that she accepts you! It's certainly better then her acting like bitch towards you.
    You're very lucky. Don't complain or say anything negative about her son to her, tell that to your friends.

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  • Isitnormal?:-)
    11 years ago

    This mom is actually accepting you! Your really lucky! Hey dont disrespect her she is welcoming you in maybe she feels that you may be the "one" for her son. I dont know but maybe if your relationship ends none of them will hate you they'll hate that the relationship ended so I'd think it through because the way your acting is bratty to the max!

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    I really like all the kids that come around my home and are friends with my son. She maybe knows what it's like to be your age and just wants you not to feel awkward.

    One word of warning though - don't read too much into it. If you hurt her son, you'll find out exactly how much / little she really thinks of you!!

    Blood is always thicker than water so don't complain about him to her - ever!!

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    Of course it's normal, you donut. You should be happy that she isn't the proverbial Mother-in-law from hell, go up there and have some fun :)

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Better than my girlfriends mum, who absolutely hates me and thinks i'm a dead beat. I have no idea where she gets this idea because I work 60+ hours a week and support myself as well as her daughter! She also thinks that I sell drugs, and I have no idea where that came from either! If your boyfriends mom treats you well, enjoy it!

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    My mother treated my sister's ex as a son. I think it was because of the kind of person he was. He felt like family to me too from very early on in the relationship. He just kind of fitted in naturally with us.

    Maybe you're the kind of person who fits in well too.

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    • SheepLovingLady
      11 years ago

      I do fit in with his family. :) It's just because others were saying it's weird... I appreciate what people are saying though. Thanks for your comment. :)

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      • dappled
        11 years ago

        Ahh, you're more than welcome. I understand why people would think it was weird. One of my girlfriend's mothers really didn't like me. But hey, you got lucky. Good for you. :)

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  • SheepLovingLady
    11 years ago

    Thanks for all the comments, people. It's just because other people have noticed and mentioned that it's quite strange how close she seems to be to me. It just started making me think that it was! I've never really been in a proper relationship before, so didn't think it was weird til others said it was. Thanks anyway, I feel a little better now!

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  • blaster
    11 years ago

    Ahh , it's probably just her outgoing personality . Plenty of people are welcoming like that she just sounds loose, open minded . She probably genuinely does hope you can be good friends.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I envy you! I feel so weird around my boyfriends family. He invites me over for dinner and stuff, and his dads kindof an arse, so I get this unwelcome feeling and always think "I really shouldn't be eating their food" But he drives me up to his house to hang out (which is way up a hill) So I kinda have to eat eventually.. It makes me want to curl up so tight I disapear xS So maybe it's a little bit odd she's so friendly, but I'd just be happy about it lol

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    Well, if your boyfriend tells his mom how much he loves you...should could just be really excited about you?

    I agree, hearing Iloveyou's are a little too much.

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  • Sweetz
    11 years ago

    She's ready to be a grandma

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  • RidingSheepOnClouds
    11 years ago

    Aw, poor you... someone likes you! Quit your whinging and bitching.

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    • SheepLovingLady
      11 years ago

      I'm not whinging or bitching. :( it's just because other people say it's weird - including my own mum and several of my friends. I just wanted to know if anyone could tell me it's normal to stop me feeling the need to listen to others!

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