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Im 18 and my boyfriend is 21. When we have sex he is really rough and does not listen to anything i say. He is really into spanking me. He also makes me swollow his cum and calls me a slut, dirty bitch, ect. Sometimes he gets to rough and hurts me but will not stop. Is it normal?
It'd be perfectly normal if you were to enjjoy this. Then this domination play is very common for couples.
But it doesn't sound like you do.
Is he nice to you outside of the bedroom? Does he listen to you and respect your opinions?
Because if it's only about his sexual behaviour, then you definitely need to talk to him and it should be fine.
But, if he's a general a-hole, well..you know where it's heading.
I honestly don't understand how someone could not care that they were hurting their partner. that's just really fucked in my eyes. I would agree to seriously talk to him, tell him this is going to become a problem if he doesn't stop. Then, if he still won't, ultimatum time, just like DolphinAngel said. You shouldn't have to put up with that kinda shit
You just have to tell him if you don't like it because many women like rough sex too and he won't know when to stop if you don't tell him.
That type of guy usually does not change, if you are not into it, move on to another
Just tell him to stop this behavior and really talk to him about what you like and what not... If he does not stop or just does not care set him an ultimatum to leave him when he does not change...
Sounds like he had watched quite a bit of porn & thinks that's the way or should be done.
You need to talk to him if you're not happy, it's as simple as that.
If you don't he may think he's doing good....
Is he nice outside of the bedroom?
If he is truly injuring you or doing things that might actually lead to some kind of real injury like hitting you, for instance, then I'd say ditch him because you don't deserve that or is he just too rough in bed for your liking. If he is simply too rough in bed and won't change it then maybe he has some sort of control issues and senses a loss of control if he doesn't have sex with you in such a rough manner. If he treats you badly outside of the bedroom, then yeah he's an asshole for sure and you'd probably be better off without him.
This would be perfectly normal if BOTH of you wanted that--
you should dump him if he won't change, or he will think that he can do whatever he wants to you. Tell him that what he is doing is called BATTERY and he can be arrested!
being rough during sex is fine - if you're OK with it and want it.
however it sounds like you don't like it and he's not listening to you.
Perhaps it's time the two of you engage in a very adult and very daring act called "communication".
Go down on him and start biting his cock, dont let go! Show him how it feels! If he whimpers squeeze his balls until he begs u to stop. That will teach him a lesson!