Is it normal my boyfriend has no friends at all?

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I have been seeing my marvellous boyfriend for two years. He has absolutely no friends, he says he has always been a solitary soul, he likes to go out on his motorcycle with his Uncles and me. He is very close to his family and has a great rapport with them. His only friend is my brother, who just hangs out whenever I ask him round. My boyfriend is approachable, sociable and funny- he just has no interest in friends, finding them or keeping them. He said I'm all he needs. Me and his motorcycle! :) Is this normal? :) xxx

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    Not everyone wants to be a social butterfly.

    Some people only want a few friends they can be very close to... vs having lots of friends who aren't close at all.

    And being solitary isn't bad. It can be peaceful to be away from all the dramarama.

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  • hardcandy
    12 years ago

    I'm pretty similar. I have friends that I rarely see, but spend most of my time with my fiance. I'm a "solitary soul", and quite enjoy it that way. Normal!

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    • DestroyedSepulchre
      12 years ago

      :) That is really decent. :)

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  • bobtv
    12 years ago

    Careful, he may be too needy since you're the only one he has, he may take it extremely hard if you guys part ways....Help him pursue other interests, like a hobby or get him to go out more-there's usually a motorcycle club where riders go out on trips together. It's not that he doesn't want friend, it's more likely he hasn't found the right person that he can hit it off with, that's why he can hang with your brother. Not a big deal to worry about though.

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    • DestroyedSepulchre
      12 years ago

      Hiya,

      I try to encourage him to meet friends. He said I am his woman, lover and tomboy, and he couldnae ask for anything more.

      He does seem miffed when I make time for my girlfriends, he hates me being out all evening and abhors the notion that I might stay-over with my friends. He is worried for my health- as I take poorly sometimes and collapse. He doesn't really trust my friends to look out for me. I have a heart condition, getting better though. :) xxx

      I think clubs might be a good idea. I am also encouraging him to join a band, with some people we both know, as he is a top-notch musician. :) I think he'd enjoy it greatly! :)

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  • CathyTree
    7 years ago

    A person can look and sound confident but actually be very shy. Maybe he is introverted and gets worn out entertaining people. Maybe he is on the autism spectrum. Later on if you stay together it might be a problem of divergence of interests. You want people round the flat and he doesn't. You want to go out and he just wants to stay at home. These things can rankle with time unless you are very firmly committed and believe the relationship is worth the sacrifice. It's worth weighing up but you will probably say yes to him anyway.

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  • 343Boy
    12 years ago

    Sounds like he's friends with his family.

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  • xstarbugyx
    12 years ago

    Sounds like he may be a loner those guys can be clingy one year and the next just want to be alone. Ne careful he don't get rid of you next

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    Identical to me. My only friendship is with my boyfriend, then there's family.
    I hung out with tons of people in jr high and high school (similar interests), but never bothered to get close enough to share secrets, go out frequently, or stay in touch. I don't mind netting people, I just don't expect/want anything to come out of it.
    I say normal- I love this lifestyle, I wouldn't change for a pack of friends.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    ^wow. Nice to know to know its a bad thing to wholeheartedly love someone with no regrets and no fears. Loving some one to a point that you don't try to make options about the worst that could happen. There are times and places for living with doubts. Without any reasonable cause, this shouldnt be treated as one.

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    • DestroyedSepulchre
      12 years ago

      I don't have any doubts about our relationship. :) There is a permanence about us, which I love. I just wonder if it is better for someone's wellbeing to have friends? As countless people have said to me they don't think its normal to have zilch-all in terms of friends. I see my friends less and less. And we are each others *world*.

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  • rayst
    12 years ago

    Im almost like him, i do have friends but value my motorcycle and a potential lover more

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    • DestroyedSepulchre
      12 years ago

      Thats really endearing *beams*! :) x

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  • IlovePapaRoach
    12 years ago

    Aww so cute! he seems like a nice guy. I don't blame him for not wanting friends , some friends r so ugh u wanna punch em and they get annoying and homd u back and stuff sometimes. I think this is normal he's normal :) ^.^

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