Is it normal my boyfriend has a really low sex drive for being 17?

My boyfriend probably wants to only have sex maybe once every two weeks. I mean everytime I come onto him (maybe every few days)he's totally cool with it, but he's never really horny or anything. Most of the time he just likes
heavy kissing and stuff. (He doesn't even like to fuck ever, he pretty much just goes for soft, sweet sex all the time)I mean I'm not ugly or anything, i'm like in that hot girl clique that you see in high school, 5'7", 120 lbs, really cute face,long brown hair and blue eyes, 34d, not much of an ass though, but still, and he does love me, he's been my best friend in the world since pre-K before we started being in kind of an actual relationship with each other in high school. I just don't know. There's been times we've lived at each other's houses and we tell each other everything personal about each other, and I guess he doesn't even jack off much, wtf. I mean, just last week he turned down an offer to stay the night at my house, pizza and beer and video games until 3am and sex all night, sleep well into the afternoon like back when we were 15, all because of an AP Physics test that monday (he doesn't even need to prepare for that stuff, he's a genius and is going to MIT). It just makes me feel weird sometimes. Are some guys really just kind of not horny much?

And it's not like he's cheating on me or anything. He's like always with me or his best friends, and he doesn't even have that kind of thing in him. He was (sexually)with quite a few girls before me, but after we started going steady, he almost looks grossed out when those girls try to talk to him and stuff again.

Oh and don't say he's gay or anything lol. His best friend is gay, and he's totally cool with him and stuff, but I can definitley say he does not like guys at all in that sense.

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Comments ( 35 )
  • aaron

    i'm gna be honest..he sounds gay!

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  • imadnastrand

    You're only 17, you have more than enough time to worry about how often you're getting laid. Obviously right now he a] has other priorities, or b] respects you- in which case you should really fucking appreciate that while it lasts.

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  • Uzzie101

    Lot's of guys are like that. You probably watch too much porn.

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  • oilers1234565

    The guy is normal, you have the high sex drive. Nothing wrong with either, but what is wrong is how you are complaining about how he won't have sex as much as you want to. Especially at 17. If you have been best friends with him as long as you say, and it is a genuine love, respect his decisions. You are almost adults and he is going to post secondary. He is maturing faster than you are. Simple as that. Plus it shouldn't matter what kind of sex you have, hard or sensual. It's about the connection you have with the person.
    I also agree you need to work on your personality. If you stuck with only saying your not ugly, it wouldn't have been so bad. But when you go off and describe to the world what you look like, it gives off the impression you are full of yourself.
    Sex is worth waiting for, so just enjoy being with him, the physical aspect shouldn't be a big deal till your older.

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  • CountessCoolout

    Are you equating whether or not he lays you down with whether or not he loves you? Maybe he's not ready for sex, or maybe he fears pregnancy/disease.

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  • dingzilla

    I'm pretty sure your too lose and it doesn't feel good.

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  • roxylinds

    Boy, you sure are full of yourself aren't you? A hot popular girl like you with a skinny, nerdy guy? Methinks I smell a stink.

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  • chilledRunnings

    He's gay.

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  • HajiE

    He respects you more than the other girls. It's in a way, a good thing. It says he loves you.

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  • FMradio

    I don't get this. When we have a lot of sex drive you go "I wish you wouldn't think of sex all the time.

    When we have a low sex drive you go "I wish you could fuck me more".

    I mean COME ON! YOU don't even know what you want. He is just sweet, WOW HOW SOCKING (ironic)

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  • Avant-Garde

    Maybe he's depressed. Try talking to him.

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  • John5

    It is very normal!
    It is just that your hormons and he's hormons are different , so he's less horny then you . Or he cloud be a bisexual ( he's probably not gay if he's dating you) and he got different secret sex desires (maby with two guys and one girl or something else..) . But I think the first cause is the right one.

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  • goodatit

    no its not normal

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  • i did not have a high sex drive till i was 20... wats wrong with the way he fucks u.... maybe hes not fucking u maybe hes making love its different... fucking is rough n sloppy usualy.. making love is sensual!... wat if he realy loves u u guna end it cuz he dont pound dat pussy enough?... maybe u dont realy love him... maybe u shud get ur priorities straight... oh and i think maybe cuz ur so (prettty) the way u tell it he feels inadiequit sp

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  • dkitty

    Nobody seems to have pointed this out but 5'7 120lb and 34d is both very unlikely and completely disgusting

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  • JuliusE

    Normally, I would say he is gay (especially considering his best friend is gay) or that he just has a low sex drive and there is nothing to worry about BUT because you mentioned that he was Jewish, that changes things. Jews are notorious for being sexually degenerate and depraved. They pretty much run the porn industry (as well as most international sex trafficking/slave trade)... Anyway, he is A) cheating on you with another girl or B) cheating on you with MEN or C) both. I would go with B or C though

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  • somekidd

    it might be your ATTITUDE?!?! :L implying he isn't normal because he isn't fucking you every night and wanting to just use you, maybe he just doesn't enjoy being with you? forget about your physical appearance and work on your personality.

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  • SAME HERE. hes too lazy.. or he's watching something.. or he wants to go somewhere and im like UR A DUDE WANNA FUCK?! but no.. we normally do between 1-3 times weekly. at rare times 0 or like 4.

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  • Jeez u dont have to have sex all the frickin time!

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  • kaylakay

    it may not be that he isn't horny,
    perhaps sex just isn't at the top of his list.
    you said he likes slow sex, or to make love and maybe he just wants to feel close to your at those times instead of just fuck. now i understand we (women) get horny and want to fuck, so just talk to him about and see what he will experiment with.

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  • SillyKitty55

    he is 17 yrs old. he is fucking anothr girl. trust me. and if he isn't then i will be damned he has issues if he seriously does not want to fuck you and he actually isn't fucking someone else.
    BUT EYS HE IS YOUNG 17 AND HE IS FKING ANOTHER GIRL!!!
    ITS ABNORMAL TO NOT HAVE A HIGH SEX DRIVE AT A YOUNG AGE!!!!!

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  • littlelamb

    he's normal.
    it's just that u have a high sex drive than him

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  • Cosmicgiggle

    How can you be so sure? Everyone has different desires, but his lacking sounds wsy abnormal at face value. Not sure what, but something isn't rigjt

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  • OverLap

    Two words: vaginal odor.....

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  • gowila

    He is either with you or he is fucking his best friend

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  • suprachelll

    lol these girls sound jealousss. some guys just have a lower sex drive than others, and if he really is as intelligent as you say he is, that might have something to do with it. a lot of intellectual types often have other things on their mind, if that makes sense.

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  • yayasaga

    I agree with the last two comments. It's you and maybe cuz you've been friends so long he really doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you. Try not to use the word like so much bcuz it like gets old

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  • fancyj

    It's you

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  • viper305

    He's fucking someone else.

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  • No_War

    Maybe he is insecure with his man parts.

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    • lmao idk he's pretty big, especially for a skinny white jewish kid. idk though.

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  • spacemonkeys21

    I dont understand this crap, a guy who isnt sprung or looking for sex finds some girl hungry for sex like foreals, i have no idea how this works. He either respects you alot and thinks its either gonna bring down ur self esteem or he just doesnt see you in that way to have sex like hes kinda use to you sorta thing, ask him be like straight up dont front, guys respond better to straight up things not going around the bush and sneaking it in

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  • Starry465

    too young to be having so much sex. Why not wait till you're in you're twenties.

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  • dude7884

    You definitely sound like the girl of my dreams....I'd love to spend the night,play video games an fuck all night.....he's gay...I don't think I know one guy who would turn down the description you posted

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