Is it normal my boyfriend doesn't want me to go to bible group?

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I was going to a bible study group for almost a year at a neighbor’s house. The group was on Thursdays from 7:00 – 8:00 PM, but every Thursday my boyfriend began complaining about me going to the group because he doesn’t like me going to people’s house. He felt I was spending too much time in it and he doesn’t like me going because there were other men in there. I could have understood if my boyfriend was here while I was there about him feeling left out, but he is never here on Thursdays. I only see him Saturday and Sunday nights. Because I don’t like my boyfriend getting upset I told him that ok I was going to stop going. I told the lady at the bible group that I can’t go anymore because it was causing problems in my relationship. It has been a month since I stop going but I do miss going to the group. It was the only "social" thing I used to do and I like learning about God's word. Was my boyfriend right in not wanting me to go?

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  • kelili
    11 years ago | pl

    You should never let a man interfere in your realtionship with God. Being with people who believe in God and talking about God is something special. This well-being feeling is more than any other and to sacrifice this for a boyfriend is a terrible mistake. Evil makes us fall in every way.

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  • drugsrbadmkay
    11 years ago

    Sounds like your boyfriend is far too controlling. It's a common trait of men who end up being abusive. You might want to do some serious thinking and praying about your relationship with this guy.

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  • bristexai
    11 years ago

    Too controlling.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Your boyfriend fell for you for who you are! So why change things about you for him, it great you are loyal to him, but don't let him control all aspects of your life. You may need this support system in the future, so return to the group as soon as possible

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  • Pyro-NJ
    11 years ago

    Mabey he doesn't want you to get brainwashed by a 2000 year old book full of shit?

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    • ShadyDrugDealer6848
      11 years ago

      This site is for 18+. You sir, are being very immature right now. You don't have to go bashing peoples beliefs.

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  • OswaldCobblepot
    11 years ago

    The bible poisons your mind.

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  • dummyme74
    11 years ago

    Thank you all. My boyfriend believes in God but thinks I dont need to go to others to learn and that I can learn on my own. He gets jealous and suspicious. He just dont like me going alone to places were there are other men he wont trust, he gets concern because I am nice to peoPle, maybe if I was less friendly he wont mind me going.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      Be careful hun, he's exhibiting a lot of red flags here with his controlling behavior. You shouldn't be made to avoid other men or places where you might run into men; it sounds like your bf is extremely insecure and he needs to realise that his insecurity is his problem, not yours and you shouldn't be made to coddle it.

      I've dated a guy like this, lost touch with a lot of my friends for a long period. Except the dude I dated had more issues than that, he was essentially cutting me off from people around me and forbidding me to talk about parts of our relationship to get in my head and control me more. He was clinically insane and he was a manipulitive fuck, to the point it took me a while to realise and get away from him. (I was innocent... once. Honestly until he came along)

      But still, keep an eye on him and you should really talk to him and explain why this kind of behavior is a problem. It might be harmless now but I know plenty of stories where it started out as this and ended up in some insane situations. The sooner he checks himself the sooner he can start fixing it.

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      • dummyme74
        11 years ago

        Thanks

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Don't give this up for your boyfriend. He really ought to understand, to trust you, and be supportive, even if he doesn't share your religious beliefs. And if he's trying to use your relationship to pressure you into sharing HIS beliefs, that's disgusting.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I understand someone not wanting their s.o. to go study mythology, but he's obviously extremely possessive and controlling. I wouldn't have someone like that in my life...but that's just me.

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    Your boyfriend, if he's not a believer, or even if he was, might be worried that if there was a man there of good faith that he might see you as marriagable. I don't think this should stop you but you should just let him know how you feel and that you miss it. I'm not sure what he thinks about it.

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  • Dot123
    11 years ago

    Total brainwashing.

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