Is it normal my boyfriend can't tell people "no"?

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My boyfriend has always had a kind heart to the point he's a pushover, I've lost count of how many times he's let people take advantage of him. It's sort of embarrassing how much he struggles to stand up for himself.

One of his buddies is a complete junkie, and has robbed him multiple times, even after my bf offered to pay to send him to rehab.

He has more money than he knows what to do with through inheritance and his family chucking money at him, which makes people even more inclined to try to mooch off him. But his thought process is that he's helping people and that "giving is the best gift" or some other shit.

I'm just fed up with him being so spineless, it's becoming pathetic.

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    He shouldnt allow people to steal from him. Thats a problem.

    Get the thief some help or something, teach him a lesson, but dont just keep allowing them to steal from you.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    6 years ago

    Okay, we've established what he's doing makes you feel uncomfortable. But what about HIM? Does it bother him that he's being taken advantage of? I mean if he's really suffering I see how you'd want him to change because you love him.
    But from what you wrote it sounds like this is mostly bothering YOU. He's embarassing you.
    I could be wrong. Maybe he'd really like to say no, but he's afraid - In that case FBFF7's advice is great.
    But if he's just a generous man who wants to help his friends, well, frankly he can do with his money whatever he likes.

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  • FBFF7
    6 years ago

    Some people honestly don't feel like they can say no, or that somehow they are a bad person if they don't say yes. But no is good sometimes. Especially with a situation like that.
    ask him this, Does saying yes all the time make him happy?
    Would saying no save him money, not let himself get taken advantage of? most likely. Its more of a personality thing, they feel like they have to be a good do'er, one to help all. but friend ships are both give and take.
    perhaps the next time he goes to say yes. Blatantly tell them no.
    Ask him in front of them or perhaps in private if he truly feels happy saying 'yes' all the time, chances are he doesn't.
    hope this helped, somewhat

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