Is it normal my bf wants to hurt himself?

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My bf is 21, and I am 20. We live an hour away. We've been together for a year and 5 months. Sometimes he has his doubts that I am being unfaithful, because he thinks that I am "too good" for him and that many men give me too much attention, on social media and in public.

Sometimes this causes us to have problems in our relationship, although I never have or would plan to cheat on him. But when we do argue, he always resorts to saying that he'll never be good enough for me and will always say that he will hurt himself, or kill himself, and will send me snapchats that make me worry about him.

I don't know if it's true, or not. Or it's his manipulative way to have insurance on our relationship that I won't leave him. But is he serious? Is this normal? Before you say, why don't you leave him, he's contemplated suicide couple of times and it escalates and gets worse with each arguement.

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Based on 33 votes (8 yes)
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  • kellyt6
    8 years ago

    Sounds like he is being a bit dramatic to control you. Maybe you guys need to take a break, I don't think he'll do it because he would have done it already, don't you think? Why should you have to suffer for his unhappiness? Good luck! You'll be okay ; )

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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago

    Your boyfriend is a manipulative little arsehole!He is probably a "mommy`s boy", who is use to getting his own way or throwing a temper tantrum!

    There is a very old saying which goes as follows, " If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it is yours to keep forever. If it does not, it never was yours in the first place!

    What your boyfriend is doing to you is not "love", he is full of self doubt and is weighing your relationship down with his inadequacies!

    It is normal for both men and woman to be a little jealous of their spouses / partners, however it is not healthy to threaten your spouse / partner with self abuse each time you conceive in your mind that they are ready to be unfaithful!

    You may think that you will be responsible for him committing suicide if you tell him that you want to break the romance off with him but I promise you he will do no such thing! People who say these things to others are normally narcissists and will never do any real damage to themselves!

    If you continue with this relationship I can assure you that he will eventually drain you of your humanity. You will reach a point where you will no longer have empathy or feelings toward another human being!

    Tell him to speak to a professional and seek help for his problems! tell him that you will only agree to continue with the relationship if he can prove that he is worthy of your affection!

    People who are like this rarely change so be prepared to move on with your life!

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  • anon2189
    8 years ago

    Ooh, this has happened to me before. My boyfriend was really mentally unstable and me being with him just made him anxious all the time. It caused us to get into a handful of fights. It got to the point where the relationship wasn't really healthy for either of us so I broke it off, but I was willing to keep in close contact since it was kind of a tough time in his life and he needed all the support he could get. Then later, he threaten to commit suicide if I wouldn't date him so I had to cut off all ties. It got really messy and for a while I was scared he'd actually kill himself but to this day, he's still okay.

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    • anon2189
      8 years ago

      Anyway, if you've done all you can to ensure that you aren't going to leave him, he still doesn't trust you, and you feel like he's manipulating you, I'd say you should leave. My experience with a similar situation ended up causing me a lot of stress and I realized that I had to do what's best for me. I think you should do what's best for you. If that's staying, that's fine. If it's leaving, you can't worry about what he might do afterwards. You can't be his therapist who walks him through life telling that he's good enough or he'll become too dependent. It really sucks to be used as a support system.

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  • Navilluschizo
    8 years ago

    tell him to quit being such a cry baby and man up or follow through.

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  • Steve2.1
    8 years ago

    People like your boyfriend annoy me.

    You should leave him, and hopefully he will kill himself.

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    • icanteven
      8 years ago

      you're sick, how can you say stuff like that.

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