Is it normal my bf shares a room with other girls + sees them naked?

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now, and he leads a summer camp for children of all ages together with some of his friends. Yesterday he called me and I discovered they sleep close together with everyone who leads the camp in a small room, and I asked him if they get dressed in that room too, he said yes. So he sees all the girls there changing their clothes and they see him changing his clothes, and they all sleep close together.

I am so disappointed in this! I feel like it's something special to show yourself naked to your boyfriend or girlfriend, it's something you only show that one person you love, something very personal. And he just sees at least 8 of his friends which are girls naked every day. Oh and they get drunk all together, I'm so scared of the things that could happen. Is it normal that I have a problem with this? For me, no one has ever seen me naked the last 10 years except my boyfriend. I don't have a problem with him wathing porn daily, but this is different, because I feel like that having sex with my boyfriend is not intimate/special anymore, because his body is not 'only mine' anymore or smething, while it feels special to me that he's the only one I show myself completely to.

Also one day he went out with my friends (I had to go home but he stayed with my friends for a while) and the next day one of my friends told me she slept with my boyfriend in his bed together with another girl, 1 boy and 2 girls together in 1 bed, it hurted me so much, but he was acting like there was nothing wrong! :/ Is this normal, or is there something wrong with me?

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48% Normal
Based on 80 votes (38 yes)
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  • I don't get yourwhole only I should see him nude thing. Countless people have seen me nude just from changing in the gym or pool locker room and trust me there is nothing sexual people mind their own business and don't look at your bits. But considering everything else yeah it's fucking weird

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  • Thatguy777

    Talk to him about this. It's odd how they all sleep together. He might not be sleeping with anyone, but you never know. Of course, you shouldn't automatically think he is and dump him unless you have proof. Seriously, talk to him and tell him that this upsets you. If he truly love you, he will make a change.

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  • GuessWho

    I think your opinion on the matter is the right one, OP.

    ...but, as a guy, I wouldn't mind being in his position.
    ...but also, he really shouldn't do anything to hurt his girlfriend.

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  • TerryVie

    Uhm, just about that first part:

    They sleep together in a room. They undress/change in that room. They are nude in that room.

    The same is also true for your family toilet and pooping. I doubt, though, that your parents, you and any silbling did that simultaneously.

    The usual handling at mixed-sex stuff like that is that ONE gender changes, then the OTHER gender does...believe me, i am female, have no problem with nudity(mine or others) and have been with a childrens camp as volunteer.

    That part about sleeping in 1 bed with 2 people of the other sex, on the other hand... -_- thats a bit weird. Maybe it was something like "oh, but there was two to make sure nothing happens and nobody gets ideas" but it's still wrong.

    So yeah, i understand you, to an extent, but unless he specifically said they are nude together at this summer camp, you should not assume that. Just saying, and best of luck if you have a talk with him...

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  • iEatZombies_

    You're normal.
    Your boyfriend I'm not so sure about. Actually, kinda sounds creepy.

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  • fullhouse

    I'd hate my partner if anyone saw her even half naked..May be it's just me..
    A guy sees naked women in room and feels nothing?Is he gay?

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  • Kar

    I voted: Yes; normal. I'm a guy ;)

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  • howaminotmyself

    It's just a naked body. We all have one. It really isn't that special.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    I mean, if they're coworkers for a camp thing, I'm sure they're not having pillow fights and running around the room naked all the time. If they ever do have to change together I'm sure they're discreet about it, but I would imagine that the females and the males change at different times, like TerryVie said.

    As for the second part, well, I don't know what to say about that. I don't have the most conventional ideas about relationships, I like open relationships if not straight up free love.

    So for me, none of this is a big deal at all. I don't think there's anything special about nudity, in fact I would walk around topless or nude if it wasn't illegal. Clothing is a modern invention, there is nothing wrong or shameful about our bodies and I don't see why we should feel the need to cover it up. If people were more comfortable with nudity and their bodies there wouldn't be a sexual connotation to it. I've shared beds with plenty of friends without it being intimate, better than making someone sleep on my hard ass floor.

    But I understand that not all people feel the same way I do, clearly you are one of those.

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    • TerryVie

      "I don't have the most conventional ideas about relationships, I like open relationships if not straight up free love.
      So for me, none of this is a big deal at all. I don't think there's anything special about nudity, in fact I would walk around topless or nude if it wasn't illegal. Clothing is a modern invention, there is nothing wrong or shameful about our bodies and I don't see why we should feel the need to cover it up. If people were more comfortable with nudity and their bodies there wouldn't be a sexual connotation to it."

      If it ever becomes legal to be legally bonded to more than 1 same-sex-partner in my country....will you marry me?

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      • shade_ilmaendu

        We can have a spring wedding, with lots of pretty rainbow flowers everywhere. *gets starry eyed*

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        • TerryVie

          *stands next to shade starry eyed*

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