Is it normal, legal issues?

When I was minor I had this psychiatrist who did not have my best interests in mind. The guy was a nut job and I frequently begged my family to get me a new doctor, but they refused. One day, I think it was the summer of 2011, I needed a prescription refill for some Xanax because I was being forced into have my blood withdrawn. My mom called him up on my phone and asked him if he could do it. He refused unless I made another appointment with him. My family was so outrage that they refused to let me see him again. The thing is is that they did not properly terminate treatment with the man...

I am now an adult now and I have been seeing a therapist who is simply fantastic. When I first saw her, she asked me if it would be okay for her to contact my ex-pyschiatrist and I said "No." I said no because I was scared of this man and I was fearful that he might try to lie about me to her like he used to do when I would see him. Not that long after that, as my trust of my therapist grew, I decided that I wanted her to have my records. Even if what was in these records was untrue, I preferred her having them as opposed to the latter. So, I emailed her and she told me that she could not directly request these records from him. She said that I would have to contact him and she also told me that she thought it highly unlikely that he would still have kept my records after all this time.

I took my chances and her advise. I typed and sent him a letter. This was a few weeks ago and I still haven't received anything... There is another problem to this, I'm worried that the letter might not have even been sent. Initially, I wanted to my mother to send it because I trust her. However, the letter ended up being put in the trust of her mother even though, I repeatedly stated that I didn't want her to send it. I don't trust my mother's mother. She is one of the main reasons that I'm in therapy now. Among other things, the woman is extremely nosy and controlling. I'm worried that she might have opened my letter, read what was inside it and then refused to send it. I have asked her a few times on this. She gives me pretty much the same answer but I don't trust her.

My mother believes that she sent it and due to the circumstances she has advised me to contact the family lawyer. She thinks that if he sends a letter to my ex-psychiatrist that the man will fear being sued and losing his license, which will make him give me my records. In the past, by both an online therapist and my therapist, I have been advised to seeking legal action against my ex-psychiatrist for the things he did to me in the past. Now I'm in a dilemma. While I think will go consult the lawyer, I'm concerned about bringing up the other stuff. I'm worried that if I try to press charges that he will lie about me and try to have me put away. I also fear my family becoming outraged at me if I do decide to do this. What should I do? Is this normal?!