Is it normal its hard for me to have empathy?

With the exception of divorce, I've been through most of the things in life that cause pain. Because of that, I know how it feels and I empathise with other people unlucky enough to be in that position. I understand what you mean about people eliciting sympathy from something trifling but I think that's just human nature. The very first thing we do when we're born is cry for any little reason. We grow out of it. It just takes some people longer than others.

You lack not only empathy, but understanding. I lack empathy too, but at least I understand. If someone is feeling down or stressed by something and you can't understand why, trust me, it's not necessarily because they're weak. People suffer to wildly varying degrees for wildly varying reasons. Just because you can't comprehend why they would be in such pain doesn't mean they're not feeling it to a strong degree, a degree that would make you act the same. You just have different triggers.

im not a bad person what so ever, and i will be like "that sucks" when something happens to someone and im always there to help and give advice, its just like itduz said.. when someone has control over it and they get upset over something so small it really annoys me i mean TRULY bad things happen to people everyday that they CANT control and CANT stop or change and they dont go on about cutting themselves or drinking to go numb or hating life because of it, but then you get these people whos bf or gf broke up ith them after only a month of dating and its the end of the world... grow up there could be far worse and if i can get over shit so can you, stop taking how good you have it for granted.

Same I have had alot happen to me when i was a child. It has effected me greatly and i am happy being the person i am today I hate people trying to suck attention out of the smallest things especially when its something they had complete control over.
I have changed into a "criminal" as you can say i dont know if your classed as one unless your caught but anyway.
Through the ages of 16-18 (I am 18 now) was when i commited crimes and no they arent as small as stealing or vandalism even though they are the smaller crimes i have done. Most of what i have done is Arson.

Anyway il go down the list of what type of person i am.

-No sympathy for anyone.
-Lack of emotion.
-Very low sex drive.
-No needs for relationships.
-Prefer to be alone.
-Thinks about everything.
-Understands situations more because i dont feel emotional about them.
-Pretends to be a nice person just to fit in.

There is more but i cant be assed listing them. I usualy wonder if im this way because of the stuff that has happened in my childhood. Are you like me or do we just share the same lack of sympathy part?

And I apologize for talking about it but i dont share my life or who i am with people i know so i talk about it where people dont know me and most likly wont be entering my life.

People even on this site have said im not normal when in reality we just have a different idea of whats normal. I know im normal.

i have no sympathy for anyone outside my immediate family, i dont empathize with people, i dont feel sorry for anyone, my life was tragic too, and i made something of it, you can too, i always get called a dick cause i lack feelings, and have no compassion for people (for lack of better words) that dont matter to me. i dont care much for friends i dont have any by choice. i prefer my own company, some call me a narcisist, some call me honest, i dont get angry with people who cry about their lives i just tune them out, one of 2 things will happen either they will get through it or not but fuck em either way, people are gonna bitch and theres not much we can do about it

I had a lot happen to me when I was younger and for the longest time I was quite oblivious to the pain of others until I suffered another trauma as a young adult. It is then that I learnt to have not only empathy for others but for myself too. Tragedies that happen to us can make us immune to the pain of others almost to the point of self centredness and arrogance. Just because you don't feel anything for anyone now now doesn't mean you won't in future, and your desire to be on your own won't change to appreciating and needing others. I think its a defence mechanism everyone has but I think one should be careful about what they do and say and to whom they say it to while their defenses are up. It could come back to bite you

yes i agree with you but people can be in pain anyway they just dont know how bad others may have had it, i dont get mad it is the nature of tragedy to sometimes suffer alone

i think people are not completley understanding my point here, im not mean to the people, i dont tell them to smarten up and stop crying, i DO comfort them and im there for them and i give them advice, but deep down even though i say that sucks, i feel like they could handle it a lot better, i still have trauma in my young adult life but i also dont let it affect me because i feel like i have realized that worse stuff could happen and i dont have it as bad as i could have it. when others who try and lecture me and claim they are very mature,feel like they have the worst life for just stupid stuff.