Is it normal in relationships

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im 19 my girl friend of 2 years now talks of a future together marriage and kids half the time and im thinking im too young for all that let me at least finish college. i tried to take a break from the relationship because she wants to control my face book and other social means but then she goes on hers and lets guys try to hit on her but when i tell her i don't want it its like shes hard headed i don't know if I'm wrong for wanting to break up the relationship was good i just feel like shes too clingy and naggy. Ive talked to her about changing how she acts but i keep getting hit with "that's how i am ill always be like this" real ignorant answer i swear if it wasn't for her going to college she would be over my shoulder watching me write this i don't know is it me or is she obsessed with me?

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  • saysthiscritic
    11 years ago

    The Best Advice Anyone Can Give To Anyone So Listen Up:
    don't get too attached to anyone, and if they want you to change that is their problem, not yours.

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  • Allyster_Nightwind
    12 years ago

    That girl is loopy as hell. My sister is that way with her current guy. Only thing is she poked holes in all of the condoms so she would get pregnant. Well she did and now she is trying to get him to marry her.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    blah, you aren't the alpha in this relationship

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    • bezzle_101
      13 years ago

      lmao what does that mean

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      • BoredGuy
        13 years ago

        If you were an alpha male, he wouldn't say shit like this to you and get away with it.

        I will be a hypocrite if i said i always had my way in all the relationships, but that's how it appeared to be! Fact is most women eventually discovered my buttons to get their way(mostly!), but telling to me, thats how i'm deal with it, meant an automatic response from me, ye.. maybe some other life time bb.

        Be the alpha male.

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        • bezzle_101
          12 years ago

          so i broke up with her and i feel much much better

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    I don't think she is obsessed. I think she has difficulty trusting in you. It may not be your fault but try consoling her instead of being angry. I also think she is looking for more attention from you. Either you can give her these things or you can't. As she has told you, she is the way she is and it won't change. Now it is your decision to accept or decline the relationship based on what you know of her.

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    Wow do you realize how stupid you sound. 2 years is pretty serious. Yes you are young but obviously you aren't ready for a serious relationship and she is. If you are going to marry her one day which is more important... Her or your Facebook? You need a reality check. That is what a serious relationship is. If you are not ready tell her now and get out. That way she will find someone who is better for her and can give her what she needs now... Same for you. You can find someone who isn't interested in a serious relationship at this point. But honestly I think you are making a mistake. It sounds like she really loves you.

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    • bezzle_101
      13 years ago

      i honestly have to say that you just shined light on the situation thank you i needed to hear that from someone

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    If you aren't happy, just break up. Don't prolong things. She obviously was acting very immature when you wanted to take a break, and she was throwing herself out there on the social network, letting guy's hit on her when she knew it bothered you. Sometimes a break means walking away for a little while, and seeing what else is out there, but it seems like she was deliberately trying to make you jealous by flaunting it, because she knew it bothered you. Relationships don't grow from jealousy. It just stirs up conflict. If she knew it bothered you, she shouldn't have been acting the way she did.

    Next time she hit's you with that line, "That's how I am I'll always be like this", say, "Well, if that's how you are, and you'll alway's be that way, then I'm having second thoughts about our relationship, and I don't think I wanna marry you if you're gonna be like that.".

    Tell her how you feel.

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    I would dump her, i would have spit (dunno whats the pp for spit, sry lol) in her face when she told you " im like that i wont change" these are not the words of a caring lover

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    • bezzle_101
      13 years ago

      Your right

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  • randomness93
    13 years ago

    It's kind of hard to say...girls are different but if I was the girl and I was acting like that I would say dump me lol but I can't say because I don't know how you feel about her

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    • bezzle_101
      13 years ago

      Like i love her or i think i do idk anymore i just feel overwhelmed and i try to tell her we should just break up because i nee space & time but she thinks it to cheat how ignorant

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