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I spend most nights just crying, I used to go down stairs so he couldn't hear me from the bedroom but he did anyway, he used to try and comfort me but lately he pretends to be sleeping when I try to talk to him and doesn't come down anymore.
I feel perhaps he feels it's the norm now and just doesn't care anymore.
You have postpartum drepression, you need to talk to your doctor immediately.
Thats a tough situation to be in (now you have explained it more). One which I can not do justice in answering adequately, except to make the general observation that you obviously need more emotional and physycal support to help you through. I sincerely hope you get that assistance going forward.
Sleep is a problem with new babies. Long ago when my kids were babies, I would sometimes sleep on the sofa with my baby on my chest so that my wife could get enough sleep. Stop crying and get help for your post-partum depression today. Your family is in a fragile condition. Your husband will soon feel overwhelmed and leave you. You must be strong.
Believe me my husband is not the only one feeling overwhelmed, pregnancy and birth can ruin even the strongest women sometimes if it's complicated. And people can be dismissive of both mother and fathers feelings.
I'm a little hormonal but I wouldn't say post natal depression I (like anyone) only get in a state when I'm being screamed at non stop by my darling newborn daughter. Which lately is all the time ....
I appreciate a man's POV though perhaps I should do something special for him too cheer him up :)
WHOA! Your daughter isn't screaming. In baby language, she is asking for calm and comfort. Or, perhaps she is saying she has digestive issues, or her gums hurt like hell from new teeth pushing thru. Your mind is still tuned to the adult world. You are an anxious mother. Anxiety stops bonding. Smell you kids hair. Use your benevolent strength of character to force yourself to quit reacting. You are her strength, her comfort, her reason to trust, love and warmth causes growth. Now take a deep breath. Composure is a winning attribute of champions.,
Combination of things but here I cry because I feel overwhelmed during night times, we both do baby won't settle no matter what I/we try.
We have a 2 year old that I look after during the day when my hubby is at work. So sadly sleeping during the day isn't an option at the moment
As you can imagine we are BOTH under a lot of stress at the moment him with his job and me with breastfeeding and caring for our newborn and her 2 year old sister.
I worry me getting upset annoys him...which just upsets me more