Is it normal im so jealous

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For awhile now I've been dating this girl, I love her however my mind is really fucking with me. I know I shouldn't ask about the past cause its going to make me jealous but I at the same time I want to know what kind of girl she was before I met her, however the more I ask the more I hear what I don't want to. We are now 18 butshe tells me she lost her virginity at 14 which i find sick. She also tells me she was a booty call once for this one guy and she's had 2 one night stands with mid 20 year olds when she was only 16. Now see I love her but every kiss touch look all I can imagine is other men, I wonder if they were "good" and im going to be pretty straight forward, if they fucked her good if they fucked better than me. When they touched her is it how I touch her. Does she touch them like how she touches me? I feel like I'm just getting a bunch of men's left overs, she also used to be skinny and pretty not that she isn't pretty now but she's gained a large sum of weight since I've met her so yeah I'm pretty jealous and I need help this is destructive I know, any adivce helps really

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    The truth is that many girls have been around like guys. It's a reality we have to get over. She's with you now, not them and she's with you for a reason. This is your best weapon, it's you, your personality, your strengths. Have confidence in yourself. She won't leave you over something like he wasn't as good in the sack, especially when we aren't even dealing with ex boyfriends. These guys should mean nothing to you. They don't even have a history with her. But as i was saying, as long as you are being your best you, you shouldn't have a reason to be jealous of her past.

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    • Mrisitnormal
      10 years ago

      So your telling me girls should sleep with as many people as they want as long as they are with you, you should feel lucky. Also the fact that they have no history with her make it worst, id rather her he in a relationship with them and d what ever than just a one night stand

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      • Short4Words
        10 years ago

        I didn't say that at all. I was saying you can't change what she's done, and have to prepare yourself for the reality that young people get around. And for the record, as far as I know she's only been with four guys which is quite lower than I expected. Maybe not at this age, but this isn't that bad. I'm saying you should focus on you and her, not them. It's not the first time a guy has had to deal with past lovers or anything.

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        • Mrisitnormal
          10 years ago

          If you loved a girl and you knew she did one night stands and was just a booty call would you stay with her? Why? Even if she had good qualities, couldn't you find someone else with the same qualities that didn't sleep around?

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          • Short4Words
            10 years ago

            I'm not sure, because I've never been in your position. All I can say is that it is from the people I know, sleeping with a few guys isn't that bad, you can't blame her on the booty call or virginity thing since she was young and that is a typical age these days to lose it. I mean it is only two years ago, but a lot can change. I wouldn't fault you for either decision so I just hope you make the best one for you.

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            • Mrisitnormal
              10 years ago

              My friend I feel the exact same way, I just don't know and I want the best but what is the best:/

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        • Mrisitnormal
          10 years ago

          She's been with more these just stick out like I said I don't care that she's been around I just care why, I understand if she was in a relationshi, but its looked at differently if she's not. I know I should focus on her and I can't change what she's done but neither can I accept it at this time, I know all this and I know I need to get past it but I just don't know. I want things to be right. I want to be her man. I want her to be my girl. But unfortunately I can't see me with her if this prolongs.

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  • Maybeoneday
    10 years ago

    So I know what it's like to be jealous and to question you're entire relationship. It's a pretty crappy road to go down, trust me it get's worse the longer you keep worrying about it. My advice would be to let it go.

    Why are you questioning your performance in the bedroom over a couple one night stands? There's no affection or passion in sex with someone you barely know, it's awkward and boring. She probably found zero enjoyment and realized she could do better and then boom you came along and met those needs.

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    • Mrisitnormal
      10 years ago

      Thanks but I don't question my performance in bed I just can't stop thinking about other mendoimg what I'm doing

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      • Maybeoneday
        10 years ago

        Awh, that has to drive you crazy though..

        Have you talked to your girlfriend about how this is making you feel?

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        • Mrisitnormal
          10 years ago

          Yeah she jus sits quiet and when I ask how she feels she jus says scared cause she doesn't want to lose me

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          • Maybeoneday
            10 years ago

            She probably wants to help you, she just doesn't know how to. I wouldn't know what to do in her situation either, she loves you and you love her. You make her happy or else she wouldn't be with you.

            You can't let the past dictate the future of your relationship, I know its hard though

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            • Mrisitnormal
              10 years ago

              I don't know man. Just don't fucking know. What would make me happy? :( FUCK why fucking why!!!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I can kind of see what you mean. My boyfriend, before we met, had a "thing" with my nemesis. I am curious to know if they had sex, but I am sure finding out would just piss me off. Yet I want to know...but don't? I don't want to imagine her and compare myself to her every time we do something sexual. I see what you mean, only as far as I know, he didn't have any one night stands or anything.

    When I was younger I did some pretty stupid stuff, but I have grown since then and have changed and I wouldn't want my past "encounters" screwing with my current relationship. They are in the past, I have learned from them and moved on.

    But does it seem like she is bragging about one night stands and being a booty call? Because then I would be more concerned. But if she just accepts that yes, those events took place, nothing can change then, then it would be best to focus on just you and her, as opposed to you, her, and her entire past of encounters she can't change.

    I shall let you know if I ask my bf about sex with my nemesis, and how that plays out. Perhaps I will have better advice for you then. Perhaps you just need to accept your jealousy and work on controlling it, even though jealousy is one of the hardest human emotions to wrangle into submission.

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    • Mrisitnormal
      10 years ago

      She doesn't brag in fact she doesn't like bringing it up I'm just stupid so I. Make her tell me now I'm fucked

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I see. If I were you, I would try to lay off of the topic; there is nothing she can do to change her actions, and bringing it up will only make you jealous.

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        • Mrisitnormal
          10 years ago

          I do try but when I'm by myself at home, work ect it just lingers and pisses me off I know I shouldn't think about it I shouldn't let it get to me but its impossible

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