Is it normal, im lonely, but would rather be alone most of the time?

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I am lonely, and seem to end up being alone most the time by choice. I have animals at home, a business, I volunteer for animal rescue part time at home on the computer and whenever needed on site. I get invitations all the time from people i know. I have never had a large group of friends and it saddens me, but at the same time, i seem to turn down invitations to start new friendships. The 3 friends that I do have dont know eachother. I have in common that they have few friends as well. But these people are very picky, sharp, I would say real winners and neat unique people. Not weird thats not what I mean. haha. I just feel so alone and not sure why i seem to stay this way by choice. When I do hang out which I occasionally do, it is with one of my good friends and it is so much fun. I have always felt socially akward at heart. But, not when I am really comfortable. I feel like I have no social skills, but people seem to think im funny and enjoy my company when im around. Not a clown just fun and I seem to pick friends that tell me know one else understands them. I have to say my friends that I do have are very bright people. And....think outside the box. I am very lucky that way.

But, back to my issue. I have rejected so many people, they just stop trying.

what is wrong with me? and :0 is this normal?

Cant wait to hear what you guys think!!

thank you, I was here in the living room all by myself and sad. On the verge of tears. I am all alone again. I do have my animals which are a huge priority in mylife...and I take thier needs very seriously. I would blame it on my responsibilities. But, I have always rejected peoples ivitations.

Warm regards.

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  • hazy_dazy
    12 years ago

    Sadly I'm just like you now. Except at one time I wad the loud outgoing girl. Now, I'm the wallflower, quiet, lonely woman. I hope your situation improves!

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  • Monkeybutts
    10 years ago

    Your never alone as long as u have urself and if u r religious u have god as well. That is what I tell myself. I am very picky with friends. I turn down everybody becuz I don't want to play games wit ppl. If i don't like u then I don't like u and I'll stay away from u. I know how it feels to b friends with the wrong ppl or ppl u don't like. U actually feel more lonlier then u did when u was alone. Being alone isn't a bad thing, or maybe I have been alone for so long that its almost normal and i have gotten use to it. I almost don't recognize it anymore. But the world is always about perfect timing and when its ur turn to make new friends and meet ur soulmate (which will indeed come) then it will all make sense y u spent those years alone getting to know urself and realizing what u like and don't like. Your rejecting invitations 'cuz u don't like the people or the places. When u like the person or want to go u will not even think for a second to turn the invitation down. You also may want to work on your confidence so you won't feel insecure if an invitation or a person u do like do ask u out. I don't see any major problem with ur story unless the reason y u never want to go is low self esteem or insecurities. Then that is considered a problem but if its not that and ur just not going 'cuz u don't like the ppl then thats fine. Just find ppl u do like.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    I kind of know what you mean .

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  • crazycatlady420
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you may be depressed.....

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  • helenjewett
    12 years ago

    it's normal. sometimes i'm like this but it's not healthy! you have to get out there. it's time to stop rejecting people. you don't have to be close close friends with them but go out and network!

    time to start accepting those invitations instead of making an excuse to stay at home. you don't want to be a hermit for life!

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