Is it normal im going through this or it's not okay?

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So I noticed I find guys who prioritize their work, career, you know important stuff, attractive and I find it really unattractive when guys are really into their gfs and relationships and put their work last, like ew what are you doing dude? I mean if you can do both, and give your attention equally then of course thats like the cherry on top but that doesn't exist sadly. So I prefer my man to be focused and determined. I am dating someone like this which is an icing on the cake, its not the only reason Im with him. There's just so much more but when it comes to issues, its usually because he's not making enough time for me, or not giving me the attention. So then I realize well Im just paying the price for liking his type but is it this bad where it's normal ? Whenever something goes wrong with his work or business, or he's in the middle of a project, he completely shuts me off. Almost like he forgets all about me, or shoves me in the corner until hes completely done fixing his issue or with his project. To me, its not normal and it's irritating but like I said before, it could be because hes the type to focus on his work and life first. I mean is it really that normal to do for a guy who prioritizes his work? Or its not because of his work but it has to do with how he feels about me?

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    You cant have your cake and eat it.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Kinda like a snake biting it's tail?

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    • thegypsysailоr
      8 years ago

      Or a gypsysailor chasing its ass

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        You are the only one of us with the ass fascination.

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        • thegypsysailоr
          8 years ago

          More like You're the only one of us with the homo fascination. You're always accusing everyone of being homophobic, maybe you should look in the mirror bud

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          • wigz
            8 years ago

            "IT'S 2016, WHY DO YOU THINK GAY IS AN INSULT?"

            Then proceeds to call anyone with even the slightest discomfort with homosexuality or homosexual displays a 'latent gay'

            Now, we know he's not being helpful and aiding those who are actually unsure of their sexuality...he's using gay as an insult himself. "oh I can get this guy good if I say his disgust with gay acts really means he is gay himself" and the only way that works is because the person slinging the supposed insult (him) is comng from a place that actually does think gay is inferior or is completely fine with perpetuating the idea that gayness is a bad thing, in other words...intolerant. But wants to act über tolerant...as if no one can see thru the whole act.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    So you want him to prioritise his career, but when he does you don't like it? And how would we know the answer to your final question? How about asking him, not when he's prioritising work but when he's prioritising you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      No I clearly answered your first statement in my post. I mentioned how he completely closes off like without notice, nothing, not letting me in. Unless you overlooked that part, it sounds like you're saying it is normal for a guy who makes his work as a priority to completely ignore and avoid his gf/wife?

      Well I have asked him and he said he does focus on work or one thing at a time....so for him it's normal I guess to shut everything else off including me but for me it doesn't seem normal or okay. But I asked here to see if maybe it is normal for a guy to do so and he is innocent.

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      • wigz
        8 years ago

        What do you think prioritize means? It means put one thing above all others.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Well I didn't think like literally. It's almost as if he shuts the door on me and focuses on whatever he wants to focus then once hes done, he can open it. That's normal? Im still not convinced but the fact that its coming off as normal from you all it makes me feel I guess a tiny bit better...

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        I was merely pointing out the obvious: that you prefer a certain type of man and now you've found him you're not happy about it.

        His behaviour seems quite normal for someone whose priority is his work, just as you wanted

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