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For almost my whole life i have found drugs to be a pointless waste of money. All they do is kill you slowly. But my boyfriend smokes weed. He is a lovely guy and hes sweet. Not pressuring or mean. I just dont like watching him kill himself. It hurts me when he smokes. Is it normal? Should i stay with him?
That's because weed DOESNT kill you. Weeds not a legit drug...seriously. It's legal where I live! Google if weed has ever killed someone..let me know the results.
Peanuts kill more people than marijuana does. Infact, Marijuanna hasn't killed anyone.
I just think he sees it as me or the weed not both. He only has room in his life for weed or me.
I think thats how you see it an inadvertedly youre forcing it on him in such a way where he has to choose between you or the weed. In reality, his hobbies are completely irrelevant to his love for you. Trust me. I love my boyfriend to death but he gave me the "me or the cigarette" ultimatum and i lied about smoking for about a year and a half and now i have almost quit in an effort to make him happy and i have nothing but resentment for him because i feel like he forced me to give up an aspect of my life. Its not goos for me, yes i know, but that gives him no right to change me or act like my father. I dont ask him to change his habits. So anyways the only result was that i lied to him all the time and would often choose the cigarette over him because he was pissing me off so much about it that i didnt even want to be near him. If i had any more sense i would leave him already, and i think about it a lot but i cant do it. Likewise my first relationship i didnt want my boyfriend doing drugs so he just used to do it behind my back. By saying you dont want to see that youre essentially removing yourself from his world and
annoying him. If he decides he wants to do it on his own thats great. If i wouldnt bug him about it because he will just start hating you and you wont win the battle. If you dont thinj you can deal with it for the rest of your life then just leave as early as possible, but dont expect him to change his habits to be with someone
What you have to worry about, over anything, is you. Technically, weed isn't a drug. Technically, smoking weed has many benefits. But not technically, you have problem with it. While I do not agree with your analysis on weed, it's your opinion, and I will respect that. Your boyfriend seems like a nice enough guy. If you enjoy being with him, and he makes you happy... You have to weigh that against your objection to drug use. If you're bothered by smoke, you'll have to cut it off. On the end, do you love him and the way he makes you feel more than you hate his drug use? If, in the end, you're going to fight with him every day about it... It's best to break up. And soon, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be.
While most people will tell you to offer an ultimatum with him; ie, choose me or the weed; I don't think this is the best choice. Ultimatums always leave both people angry and resentful in the end. Asking him to give up weed is like him asking you to give up your dog. He loves weed; you love your dog. But does he love weed or do you live your dog more than he loves you or you love him? No. It's part of his life. It's part of who he is, at least for now. If you can't except that part of him, it's best to move on.
People take drugs because it can be an amazing expirience. After all good health is only the slowest rate we can die. Id knock a few years off my life for some good fun anytime.....
Oh and yea, weed doesnt kill you.
I overdosed on weed one time. Totally serious and completely true story. I had to go to the hospital and everything, so dont tell me it is completely safe.
seriously, you should try marijuana for yourself, it'll help you look past the fact that he smokes weed lol
A pothead or all-day smoker is different then someone who smokes occasionally.
You can't change his beliefs either way but if he's using pot throughout the day you should ask yourself whether you really want a boyfriend who uses marijuana to cope with problems.
I've abused it for years, when I hadn't smoked in a few hours I would get cranky, anxious, lazy, sometimes depressed but mainly very very bored.
Oh and by the way, i you ever tried ir yourself you would see its not bad at all. Its no worse than alcohol at all. Alcohol destroy your liver, you can od, you can get addicted, and ir can make you totally sick an incompetent. With rare exceptions, weed has none of those problems, and you just feel a little sedated and very relaxed. Just because it has the "illegal" label on it everyone thinks its te mosterrible thing in the world. If youve never done drugs i can blame you, but you should get educated. My parents were goody-goodies and when they found out i ha smoked weed, they thought i was going to turn into the same thing that heroin and crack addicts become. That couldnt be further from the truth. It has so many fewer side effects than things like alcohol in my opinion, you cant even call it a real drug..
How Ironic, eh?
Look up the benefits of weed. I'm yet to hear of anyone dying from it. They're more deaths from alcohol related incidents and typical smoking each and every year.
I wasn't aware that weed slowly kills you. We're all slowly dying anyways.
HEY.
I experienced the same thing with an ex. I HATED weed, and felt like you do. It became a huge issue in our relationship and made me like weed was more important to him than I was. Which isn't true by the way. To him, smoking weed isn't a big deal. (Honestly, it isn't.) So he doesn't expect it to hurt as much as it does. I've been in your shoes. And here's my advice:
If you haven't tried smoking weed, do it with him. Just once. Show him you're willing to try and understand why it's something he enjoys so much. You can't say something is terrible if you've never been on that side of the spectrum. Grow a pair, and live a little. Weed is very safe, and you don't have to smoke a lot either. Just TRY IT. He'll love that you'd be willing to do that for him.
STEP TWO:
Depending on what you take from the experience determines your next move. If you end up realizing, "Wait! I too enjoy this magical plant" then problem solved. You might surprise yourself, I used to hate weed and now I'm a stoner. My current bf (Whom I'm marrying) got me to ease into giving it a try, and I learned how harmless it is!
If you end up still feeling like it's poison, then you have to break up with him. The issue is too big to ignore. It's a core value issue with him as a person that you disagree with. There is NO way to eliminate the anger or hurt by tolerating it. UNLESS you realize it isn't something you were conditioned to believe it is. A "dangerous illegal drug". Watch some documentaries on weed too, that helped me. Educate yourself!!