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Im a female and I have a male friend who hurts teenage girls and I promise to keep his secret. Is it normal that Im trying to figure out what is holding me back from telling the police of his crimes? I don't know why but I don't want to break his trust. I know it's wrong but he is a friend. Please help.
You couldn't pay me to keep a secret like that. Words cannot express how much I would enjoy stabbing someone like your friend in the back!
He is not a friend worth having. You need to do the right thing by his victims.
If you feel intimidated or are worried that he will do something to you if you tell, then tell the police when you tell them the rest of it. There should be something they can do to keep you safe.
"He is not a friend worth having. You need to do the right thing by his victims."
"If you feel intimidated or are worried that he will do something to you if you tell, then tell the police when you tell them the rest of it. There should be something they can do to keep you safe."
You do realize that you could be faced with crimes also for not reporting this to the police. Considered an accomplice to the crime and failure to report among other things.
Tell the police. He's only going to get worse and he could possibly escalate. He needs to know the law and realize the consequences of his actions. If you're scared to go to the police then contact a parent or the victims parents.
If you don't want to break his trust, it's pretty evident that he is grooming you to trust him. You have got to take this situation very carefully. I understand your fears. If he knows that you know his secrets, you could also be a target to his abuse. But you need to speak up against this some how. Can you send in an anonymous tip? I would also slowly remove myself from this guys life. You need to cut any and all ties with him. This person is dangerous. These are all the warning signs for a malicious abuser. If you are his confidant, he's keeping you around for a purpose and it isn't a good one. Don't tell him you're ending the friendship, slowly back away. stop hanging out with him. Don't return his texts, phone calls or visits. Put an extra lock on your door if he knows where you live. Change your number. Do all of that. I'm being dead serious. This is not a good situation you are in, and you have to take every single precaution to protect yourself because you could be next. If he comes banging down your door, don't answer it. Call the police immediately. You can contact a local domestic violence center in your area for tips without identifying anyone. Tell them you are afraid for your safety. They will take you seriously. Remember that they are required by law to protect vulnerable/in danger people-- therefore I would not identify myself right away but instead ask them for advice. I can't stress this enough- take this seriously. Take him as a threat. Get out of his life, and fade out of the picture.
In a way, it's normal to want to protect your friend in one way and maintain their trust. However, the more time it tajes you to tell the police, the worse he hurts them. Imagine that this would happen to a family member... it would probably mess you up. Imagine the mothers of those girls. The more you leave this, the more families he fucks up.
And you will be his accomplice, you are in a way not very different because you won't stard up to what is wrong. Plus, who knows, your friend might turn on you one day.