Is it normal if your good friend has bad qualities you're aware of?

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My good girlfriend is there for me if I need a talk or just to hang out and chill. I consider her as one of my few good gfs because we can talk about anything and she is there to listen and give feedback. I don't want to lose her because I don't make many good gfs that I actually care about. When I do make a potential good gf, I don't care if I lose them so its very rare for me to actually care for a friendship. It takes a lot. However, she does things that I just don't tolerate in general but because she is my good gf I accept her or not accept her but just let it slide and move on. For example, she cheats on her bfs. Even when she says she doesn't want to do that anymore and she's done after breaking her ex's heart, she does it again and giggles like knowing its wrong and saying like "oops" I'm like "haha eeeyah..." She also considers herself a feminist yet does things that degrade women. Aside from cheating, when she is single she does get around even tho she says its not like that. And a bunch of other stuff. She displays herself as this "classy yet naughty girl" but I feel like she hides her bad side in a classy way to get away with it. She also tries to act black which I really hate in general of people. So she has these bad qualities that I don't accept in general but I don't know what to do because she is a good gf to me but that brings me to something else. If she cheats, that's a lie. If she portrays herself classy but gets around, that's a lie. If she tries to act black, that's a lie. So I'm starting to feel what if she is fake to me? and I shouldn't trust her as much as I'd like to or as much as I have? At this rate, I think I'm going to distance myself from her. Whenever we hang out, I'll keep more things to myself and not get carried away and start blabbering about a bunch of stuff.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Theres a hole in my Jacket Deliza Deliza
    Theres a hole in my Jacket Deliza a hole
    Then fix it Dear Henry Dear Henry Dear Henry
    Then fix it Dear Henry Dear Henry fix it

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Theres a hole in my ass Deliza Deliza
      Theres a hole in my ass Deliza a hole
      Then finger it Dear Henry Dear Henry Dear Henry
      Then finger it Dear Henry Dear Henry finger it

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      • Terence_the_viking
        10 years ago

        No cream for this cat.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          It's in your hole Deliza.

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          • Terence_the_viking
            10 years ago

            Oh henry don't put it there you wally thats a purse.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Snookie will be Snookie.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    It sounds to me like your friendship with her is about you settling because you're afraid to be without her; afraid to be alone. This smells all kinds of codependent. I do, however, think it's great that you're starting to distance yourself from her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ya I didn't think of that actually. I might just be afraid to lose her because as I said, I don't have many gfs and she really has been there for me for all kinds of stuff like if I have crazy questions and concerns. But she has changed into all those things I pointed out so if I'm afraid to lose her yet don't like what she does, is that not a good friendship?

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        That's a good question. I guess my inquiry at this point would be has she ever betrayed you? Also it's possible she might be a sex addict judging from her promiscuity and infidelity. I can understand how the acting Black thing could be annoying especially if she has a poor grasp on Ebonics but it also sounds reminiscent of those awful people who do really bad English accents and instead of entertaining people it just makes them cringe.

        Is it possible she could have some kind of mental illness? I must concur with you regarding infidelity as a form of lying though. I'm curious as to whether not she abuses alcohol or drugs which could exasperate her annoying behaviors as substance abuse tends to lower inhibitions. I don't know that I'm in a position to judge your friendship with her but either way some distance from her would probably do you good. If you're already annoyed and stressed out by her the last thing you need is her unnecessary drama.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          She hasn't betrayed me directly. But I'm afraid based on all those bad behaviors why shouldn't I be concerned if she maybe is being fake to me and doesn't really have my back at the end of the day? So to answer your question, who knows if she has betrayed me.
          And no she actually stopped drinking heavily and doing other drugs a while back just for own good. She's fine in that case.
          But yeah I think I shall keep my distance like its been because now that I'm going to be able to spend more time with her I got excited thinking were gonna get closer this summer and everything will be great. But so far I just think it'll ruin our friendship we have so to save it distance is key as much as I'd wanna be closer.

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