Is it normal if i'm scared of not caring anymore?

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Is it normal that I'm afraid of caring less about my bf and our relationship even though caring less might be for the better? I really care about us because I just happen to love this guy. There's just something that has brought us this far after so many ups and downs. But you know what they say, there's always one that loves more and that's me in this relationship. I care too much meaning yes I always ask the questions, I'm always the one left hanging, I'm the one who suffers emotionally when things go wrong while he is cool calm and collected. So this whole time I've been pretty controlling but because I care a lot.

However recently, I've actually gained more strength surprisingly to the point of not caring about these little things so much. If something that would originally piss me off happen, I now just think about it but feel less tension everywhere including in my body. I don't feel that pressure or stress like before. Sometimes it creeps up and I'll tear up a little but I get over it quick. What exactly is happening? This might sound like a good thing because I'm stressing less and possibly saving my relationship , but I actually don't feel too good about it. It feels like I'm starting to not care about him and us meaning I'm no longer interested which isn't what I want. Like I said I love him and want this to work so the last thing I would want is to naturally grow apart. In a way it seems healthier for me to not care but it's also causing me some sadness. Is this normal?

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  • Ipooprainbows
    8 years ago

    Yes its normal to feel that way. What you're doing is a coping mechanism which is a good thing by the way! Its helping your body by taking a lot of the stress away. Also it doesn't mean you care less, actual real love is when you are able to love detached which is unconditional. Conditional love is when someone is attached and everything affects them and feelings can be up and down. Basically a healthy relationship is a non-attachment one whilst a toxic relationship is conditional and doesn't last.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I know its good for me but I guess I also kind of like the vulnerability. I've never been a vulnerable type of person until I met him. So in a way, it feels good to cry or to he hurt overall to feel especially for someone else. And now I'm getting more tough you can say like going back to how I used to be and if he messes up then I just dust it off and then eventually I pick up on it and realize did I just dust him off? Like he's nothing?

      Like you said and I said, it is reflecting more positivity in our relationship. It is a lot healthier than before in terms of fighting and trust issues all the time. It feels more free and I can see he's happier with me cause I'm not yelling at him all the time lol. And if he does mess up then I know I'm not gonna chase him like I used to but in fact just let it be or walk away and who knows, maybe hell chase me.

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      • Ipooprainbows
        8 years ago

        I understand what you mean but try not worry so much over how you're feeling. At the moment , this is serving you both in a positive way. Your relationship might even become stronger because of this :)

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